The NoPorn / NoFap Thread - For Those Who're Serious

Cervantes

Woodpecker
Woman
Confession helps a lot with no-fap, no-porn. If you have to confess it - to a priest you know and see weekly, then its much easier to resist temptation. You're about to jerk it - and you think - I'm going to have to confess this to Father Fred, and it you're going to feel a lot less into it.

When you do fail - you get a moment of pleasure - and then you're stuck contemplating for days about how to confess it in the least disgusting and humiliating way possible.

Those in heaven can see everything. When you're jerking it, imagine yourself doing it in front of a crowd of angels who are feeling pity and mortification for you - because that's really how it is.
 

Transsimian

Ostrich
Gold Member
Hopefully this image shows just how ridiculous porn is, unless you like looking at penises.
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Knight.of.Logos

Robin
Orthodox Catechumen
Confession helps a lot with no-fap, no-porn. If you have to confess it - to a priest you know and see weekly, then its much easier to resist temptation. You're about to jerk it - and you think - I'm going to have to confess this to Father Fred, and it you're going to feel a lot less into it.

When you do fail - you get a moment of pleasure - and then you're stuck contemplating for days about how to confess it in the least disgusting and humiliating way possible.

Those in heaven can see everything. When you're jerking it, imagine yourself doing it in front of a crowd of angels who are feeling pity and mortification for you - because that's really how it is.
That's a helpful image :laughter:

I was making some good progress with NoFap, but I've had some recent relapses. If anybody feels inclined to say a prayer for me, I would greatly appreciate it! Of all the addictions I've stopped over the years (booze, weed, mindless internet usage, junk food, laziness) -- masturbation is the only habit I've yet to kick. I have faith I'll get there one day, I just hope it is sooner rather than later since I know it does carry a dark energy over to the other areas of my life.
 

JTA

Pigeon
What do you do for fasting?

This guy is notorious for his fasting regiment (generally eating large portions in one sitting, then not eating for 24-72+ hours on average):


Warning: crass language, but if you're interested he offers a good comprehensive overview of fasting (focused on weight loss primarily, but with other health benefits discussed).

Overall, recommended to help reboot out the gate when embarking on a nofap journey.
 
Confession helps a lot with no-fap, no-porn. If you have to confess it - to a priest you know and see weekly, then its much easier to resist temptation. You're about to jerk it - and you think - I'm going to have to confess this to Father Fred, and it you're going to feel a lot less into it.

When you do fail - you get a moment of pleasure - and then you're stuck contemplating for days about how to confess it in the least disgusting and humiliating way possible.

Those in heaven can see everything. When you're jerking it, imagine yourself doing it in front of a crowd of angels who are feeling pity and mortification for you - because that's really how it is.

Fappers be like "Don't look. Nooooooo."
 
I think too many here are trying to quit but setting themselves up for failure.

One quote that says it all for me is "Chimp in state of nature never jerks off, but in captivity he does, what does this mean?”. No, humans are not chimps, but the principle here most certainly applies.

If you are here living a sterile, domesticated life, with no social importance/interactions, women, feelings of importance, excitement, fear, etc. you are in a state of captivity, and you will naturally feel the urge to pleasure yourself to relieve your poor state.

I can recall months of vagabonding travel as a 21-year-old where I have no urge to masturbate whatsoever. I spent every day moving, exploring, negotiating, planning, fighting, pursuing women, etc. At the end of each well-lived day, regardless of how long it was since I had been with a woman, I only had the desire for a good night's sleep.

Right now my life is that of a captive animal. I am 4 months clean, but it's all sheer willpower. Ultimately we all need to pursue lives so fulfilling that we don't feel the pull to vice.
 

Hermetic Seal

Kingfisher
Orthodox
Gold Member
Confession helps a lot with no-fap, no-porn. If you have to confess it - to a priest you know and see weekly, then its much easier to resist temptation. You're about to jerk it - and you think - I'm going to have to confess this to Father Fred, and it you're going to feel a lot less into it.

When you do fail - you get a moment of pleasure - and then you're stuck contemplating for days about how to confess it in the least disgusting and humiliating way possible.

Those in heaven can see everything. When you're jerking it, imagine yourself doing it in front of a crowd of angels who are feeling pity and mortification for you - because that's really how it is.
This is very true.

A day or two ago, I jerked it for the first time since I was baptized into the Orthodox Church. I didn't look at porn or even really fantasize, but I felt absolutely horrible afterward, it was kinda shocking. I don't think I actually felt much shame about fapping since I was in 8th grade or so. (And similarly, I felt very little shame about looking at porn since I'd been doing it for almost fifteen years and had been numbed to it.)

Between not wanting to feel like that again, and not wanting to have to confess stuff, I think this is going to be a powerful motivator to avoid sexual sin.
 

Cervantes

Woodpecker
Woman
One of the modern world's lies (the Devil's lies really) is that everyone masturbates and that you will be unable to resist - so don't even try.

This is not true. If you're constantly working to improve your relationship with God you can resist easily. I used to struggle with this kind of sin. Now I only feel tempted when I slacken the amount of spiritual training that I do (e.g. when I slack off prayer, reading, fasting).

Don't waste time trying to avoid this sin by force of your own will - you can resist for awhile, but so long as inwardly you desire it, you will fail sooner or later.

Instead, work on your own holiness so that you increase grace and reduce your desire for sin. Or another way of looking at it is you increase your desire for heavenly things and earthly temptations become smaller in comparison.

Think of spiritual practices like weight lifting. If you're not training - you're getting weaker. When you are training you start to sense other people's spiritual state by the way they act. Those with no spiritual strength ogle women, slaver over food, become angry, fearful or envious more easily. Prayer builds detachment from worldly things which gives you strength for all kinds of things.
 
I hope to contribute more on this topic in the future as I've struggled with the addiction of porn for most of my adult years and could write a large article on it if I wanted on my experience and humiliation on what it has done to me.

I can provide some tips, which no doubt has been discussed over the years here, but I might advocate advice on looking for an accountability partner. Someone who will be there if you are about to relapse, masturbate or watch pornography and vice versa. It is hard, even a knock on your pride to even acknowledge the thoughts or actions, but with someone who you could (hopefully) help abstain. Add to that, a reliable filter (not perfect, but the best I've used) is Covenant Eyes.

I think the best thing that helped me was making a commitment to ending it completely. This does not mean perfection, it means a journey in ending it. I'm still on it. Whether it would be used through strict schedules/lifestyle, prayer, change of diet, exercise and even a change of how you perceive yourself, there are ways that could work.
 

Diocletian

Woodpecker
I decided to do nofap for Lent; I actually started the Monday before Lent so I'll get a couple extra days. I figure it would be easier to give it up during a season of fasting and abstinence. I was able to kick the porn habit about a year and a half ago but the fapping is still there.

Twice daily rosaries are a huge help as well as the prayer to St. Michael Archangel at lunch. I work from home so I've been keeping my rosary on my desk. I also keep my personal laptop open with a wallpaper of the Blessed Virgin on a table behind me so that whenever I start getting sexual thoughts I can just turn around, look at the picture, and say a quick Hail Mary. I figure the Blessed Virgin is an effective way to get through this--first using her as an example for her qualities of purity and constancy in the face of trial, but also because there is something incredibly embarrassing about a woman knowing that you're masturbating; doubly so if its your mother, and a million times worse if its the mother of God knowing what you're doing.
 

tractor

Woodpecker
Orthodox
Hey guys, anyone on here who was able to kick porn/masturbation? What worked, and what didn't? I'm seeing a lot of good stuff. I think my main problem is I lack discipline and self-restraint so I just kind of let my body do whatever I feel like.

Thanks!
I haven't touched myself so far this year.

I don't remember I could survive without porn that long.

What really helped this time was my faith. It grew stronger last year. This article helped a lot:

Especially, the advise not to fantasize about sex even with your wife. Why put these pictures into your head if she's inaccessible? That's where Satan gets you.

The 2nd advise is also interesting. You're not able to prevent certain images from entering your mind but you're able to not respond to it.

The guys writing about struggling with your confession have a point too.
I'm in a church now that doesn't require confession to participate in the eucharist but around Easter, I'll be re-baptized into the Russian orthodoxy. These guys don't take no prisoners with their attitude to the confession. So I better don't sin again, at least none of these mortal sins.
 
I think too many here are trying to quit but setting themselves up for failure.

One quote that says it all for me is "Chimp in state of nature never jerks off, but in captivity he does, what does this mean?”. No, humans are not chimps, but the principle here most certainly applies.

If you are here living a sterile, domesticated life, with no social importance/interactions, women, feelings of importance, excitement, fear, etc. you are in a state of captivity, and you will naturally feel the urge to pleasure yourself to relieve your poor state.

I can recall months of vagabonding travel as a 21-year-old where I have no urge to masturbate whatsoever. I spent every day moving, exploring, negotiating, planning, fighting, pursuing women, etc. At the end of each well-lived day, regardless of how long it was since I had been with a woman, I only had the desire for a good night's sleep.

Right now my life is that of a captive animal. I am 4 months clean, but it's all sheer willpower. Ultimately we all need to pursue lives so fulfilling that we don't feel the pull to vice.
good point.
 

Sjl

Chicken
Hey Peeps,

There have been several threads about the effects of porn and quitting porn over the last few days. I'm current on Day 8 of no porn, no masturbation. The goal is to build real desire for women, to project more sexuality and to see women more three dimentionally.

There are a lot of different people who get different things from a challenge like this. I highly recommend reading through some of the 60 day and 90 day reports (linked to below) to see what kind of effect it can have on your life. If you're interested in game, the effects of quitting porn and/or masturbation can be huge on your life.

If you're interested in doing the 30, 60 or 90 day challenge and you're serious about it, I'm forming a Google group. The purpose for the group is to create a support network - Much like quitting any other addiction.

You can use the group to:

1) Get to know other people's challenges and how they're resolving it.
2) Send the group a message to vent or ask for support if you're going through a particularly hard time.
3) Know you're not alone and feel a sense of brotherhood as we all tackle an extremely difficult task.
4) Share your ideas, discoveries and breakthroughs as you have them.

If you're interested, drop me a line with your email and I'll send you the invite.

Resources / Recommended Reading:

http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/doing-what-you-evolved-to-do
http://www.reddit.com/r/nofap/faq
For any guy doing this. I started this last November. I quite porn earlier in the year 2020 but I focused on no fap as I still did almost daily.

For guys who fapped to images on your phone for years and trying to stop, yes you will succeed.

But you will turn into a crazy man. At least I did.

At first I didn't know how to handle the masculine energy I suddenly gained. My confidence levels messaging girls and going on dates was new and exciting. But on nights I had no date or no hot leads for girls, I was still insanely horny.

I write all this as a warning. Do not do anything stupid online. You will be so horny you will do anything for a release. I suggest locking your phone in your car outside if necessary.

Eventually this leveled out for me. But the first couple months I was a mad man. Maybe try putting that energy into something productive. Try not to be idle. Plan social events ahead of time, be as busy as possible.
 
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