Wet dreams aren't a problem in my opinion. It goes away until some time in the future. Likewise you aren't really sinning because it comes of its own accord. Let it pass.
The NoPorn / NoFap Thread - For Those Who're Serious
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Wet dreams aren't a problem in my opinion. It goes away until some time in the future. Likewise you aren't really sinning because it comes of its own accord. Let it pass.
For people who do this long term according to what I observed on the NoFap subforum. Your body adapts. And those cravings largely go away unless awakened by something.
Ive been off the forum a while but I just wanted to come back and confess that I’ve been seriously struggling with NoFap again, it’s been hitting me lately when I have nothing to do. I’ve been getting involved with my church and working on my goals for myself but when it comes to downtime or I’m alone or whatever it just hits me and I’ll start searching through Instagram (which I deleted and yet keep finding myself coming back to), Facebook deleting/redownloading dating apps which inevitably leads to most of the time edging and some of the time fapping.
It was honestly 10x easier to quite chewing, nicotine and coffee than this. I’ve been celibate for 2 years and it’s excruciating at times, like I am craving a girlfriend. Idk if I’m reopening these old wounds or if this is part of the healing process but I just felt like I needed to fess up... this by far is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. I always feel like a pervert after. Anyway thanks for listening dudes prayers would be appreciated.
It was honestly 10x easier to quite chewing, nicotine and coffee than this. I’ve been celibate for 2 years and it’s excruciating at times, like I am craving a girlfriend. Idk if I’m reopening these old wounds or if this is part of the healing process but I just felt like I needed to fess up... this by far is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. I always feel like a pervert after. Anyway thanks for listening dudes prayers would be appreciated.
Do you go to confession regularly?
If I need to fap I just imagine hot girls I know in various situations involving me and possibly some nylon ropes. Your own imagination is much better than shlomo's shiksa hoe tube. People are too damn indolent these days. I've seen some of the shit they make these days... it's fucking gross. No wonder half those girls kill themselves when they turn 30. They've got be at least 95% of them addicted to hard drugs to let those things happen to them. It's a fucking sewer. Everyone involved should be burnt at the stake for witchcraft. Also, if can't get dates just start lifting. Girls are sas shallow as men are, you don't need "game" or w/e. Which from what I understand is just trying to chat up every girl you see until the 50th one lets you bang her.
You do realize this is a Christian forum and „fapping“ and having casual sex are both mortal sins?
westernman
Robin
Hello fellow Spartan
Lifting definitely makes nofap harder, but every man should be doing it. In terms of women putting out for fit men, maybe if you are meeting them in person, but not online
Just keep at it. You'll break it. It's a mental rewiring that takes a long time. For me, it's no longer an emotional thing. I just see if from a statistical and psychological perspective. My streaks of NoFap get longer. The amount of times I fap during a month, on average, decreases. It's not like quitting alcohol, or tobacco, or caffeine. These are external drugs that once you clear them out of your system, it's easy to stay away from them. The cravings that bring you back to porn will never disappear because it's a healthy biological process to want to procreate. It takes a different mindset and approach.
SunDance57
Pigeon
I have been no fap and no porn for awhile now. But I have been getting my nut with my wife regular. Kind of cheating. So I have been delaying ejaculating the last 7 weeks except when going crazy with horniness.
However, I just found out about semen retention, kegels, edging, cool Draw, and big draw inorder to orgasm without ejaculating and other benefits.. I recommend checking it out. The non orgasm benefits are really there, but the orgasm part not quite there yet for me. Recommend book is the Multi orgasmic man. You will never have sex the same after reading. If married or LTR, do it, it will really change things up for the better.
However, I just found out about semen retention, kegels, edging, cool Draw, and big draw inorder to orgasm without ejaculating and other benefits.. I recommend checking it out. The non orgasm benefits are really there, but the orgasm part not quite there yet for me. Recommend book is the Multi orgasmic man. You will never have sex the same after reading. If married or LTR, do it, it will really change things up for the better.
Boredom was always why I did it the most too. As FactusIRX said, it really is about re-wiring your brain. Since you're on this forum, hopefully you won't reject that the easiest path in this involves accepting Jesus Christ and rejecting Satan. I was never able to withstand the boredom and even attempt nofap until I accepted Jesus in my life. Since doing that I've completed 5 months of nofap and counting. I know I'll falter someday, but in a way that makes it easier. Whenever temptation hits, a quick prayer ("Lord Jesus Christ Son of God, have mercy on me a sinner") can do wonders.
I've been on NoFap for over a year now and have drastically changed my life. I am practicing Catholic now, but my past still haunts me. I keep on getting urges to become a fornicater again.
Girls seems to be more flirtatious with me now more than ever before which doesn't help my situation. Please any advice would be helpful. Thank you!
Girls seems to be more flirtatious with me now more than ever before which doesn't help my situation. Please any advice would be helpful. Thank you!
I've been watching porn a lot lately. I want to make a change in life, and see if I can go without.
What are the main benefits of not watching porn?
Do you think girls can somehow, subconsciously, feel that you have your shit together and not watch porn. I kind of feel like girls were more flirting with me as well when I stopped watching porn. Maybe it's just a coincidence, but it probably had to do something with confidence in my situation. Confidence now is at an all-time low probably.
What are the main benefits of not watching porn?
Do you think girls can somehow, subconsciously, feel that you have your shit together and not watch porn. I kind of feel like girls were more flirting with me as well when I stopped watching porn. Maybe it's just a coincidence, but it probably had to do something with confidence in my situation. Confidence now is at an all-time low probably.
BiggNastee
Kingfisher
Would yall kindly find your own space to decorate your sin. Its not funny nor cute
Yes they do, from my experience I noticed that guys who watch a lot of porn give off a vibe that women can spot from a mile away. I'm not sure if it's spiritual in nature or if it's something in your eyes, i.e. sunken eyes, body language, but they have a way of telling "this guy's weird".
You can relinquish your pornographic mind. A pornographic mind always leaves you wanting more, thus debilitating the chances of developmign a meaningful life-long relationship. It is not possible to always focus on one woman. You will have in the back or front of your mind to queue up another woman, get another girlfriend later to use. And always, when she or no one is about, you will be slipping in women who you'd have to pay to just look at you. Most actresses are also prostitutes.
Quitting porn is one of the most difficult things I've ever attempted in my life. It is truly my last vice, and if I can eliminate it, I believe I can achieve nearly anything.
I have noticed my triggers - using my iPhone when I am at home alone. So, I have sold my iPhone.
One of the shifts you must make in your mind is that you must say to yourself: "I DO NOT masturbate to porn" Simply saying this begins to create the pathways that build your reality around you. As soon as you identify as a man that doesn't do something, you begin to believe it in your soul.
I use a streak tracker that I reset if I so much as glance at porn. This keeps me honest with myself and makes me want to continue and best my last streak.
Read Your Brain on Porn. This will give you many realizations about what you are doing to your mind (and by extension, your soul) when you watch pornography.
I have noticed my triggers - using my iPhone when I am at home alone. So, I have sold my iPhone.
One of the shifts you must make in your mind is that you must say to yourself: "I DO NOT masturbate to porn" Simply saying this begins to create the pathways that build your reality around you. As soon as you identify as a man that doesn't do something, you begin to believe it in your soul.
I use a streak tracker that I reset if I so much as glance at porn. This keeps me honest with myself and makes me want to continue and best my last streak.
Read Your Brain on Porn. This will give you many realizations about what you are doing to your mind (and by extension, your soul) when you watch pornography.
I highly recommend finding a in person community of men, I honestly say that it's what has led to my success in fighting off this habit.
That's the exact look I am talking about.
Well, theologically, you really have to confess your sin. Watching porn and masturbating are mortal sins. By not watching porn and refraining from masturbation, your soul is able to be saved. That is a good incentive for the believer.
But imagine how you look and how you are perceived when you cannot even restrain from stroking your own genitals for your own fleeting pleasure? It is truly a wretched and disgusting sight.
Delaying gratification is the main driver for success in a man. If you can‘t even control your lust, what does that say about other things in your life?
Restraint is a benefit in itself as it makes you stronger mentally. Praying helps me greatly when I am tempted by a pretty woman on the street.
Other benefits are maturity, discipline that also comes with it, clarity in your mind, lack of a bad conscience and obviously „normal“ sexual desire.
Ultimately, what helped me quit masturbating was my faith. It will be harder for people that do not have it.