The NoPorn / NoFap Thread - For Those Who're Serious

Cr33pin

Peacock
Other Christian
Gold Member
“Addiction is wanting it more, but liking it less.” Man..... right in the feels! Most of my poon pursing life I was on fire. I have had sex with a couple hundred girls. Towards the end of that something I never thought would happened happened and the novelty wore off.... But the need or desire to continue the pursuit was still there and strong as ever. Even in my sober mind I was like "this is crazy, why do I feel so drawn towards something I don't even like." Yet the cycle continued.... I would have sex with another random girl then I would just feel shitty and depressed for the rest of the day, I would also have a clear mind about how awful this cycle is and how I was going to break it. Then the next day rolled around and I felt the need to breed... It's a true addiction and a costly one at that. However you could not have told my younger self these things.


 

Tikhon

Pigeon
Orthodox
I had a nearly year and a half streak end today. I was tempted practically every second this entire week and today it was too much. If anything, my pride in that streak has now been erased, and in defeat I'm more determined than ever to start up again, one day at a time. We are all sinners, but we can all choose Christ as our salvation.

God bless.

I had a 10 month span and a 7 month span but prior to converting to Orthodoxy I never even came close to these 2 periods of time.

After falling those two times, I was devastated.

I recently lost my dog and have found that I am falling again, not so much to porn, but just acting out.

Just had another fall today after a week.

I was a functioning alcoholic for 25 years and have been sober for a long time now, but this sin is the worst.

I hate it.
 

AHaytch

Sparrow
Non-Christian
At this point I no longer have the urge to purse pornography. And for whatever reason, my libido has plunged to zero. While scary (I'm only 21, this really shouldn't be happening to me), it seems to be a blessing in disguise. Since I have had little to no passion for it, I have been able to see myself 'falling' towards it voluntarily. That is to say, I have begun to recognize that this simply isn't just a passion, but something that I myself was consciously choosing and falling towards. I have been voluntarily subjecting myself to this filth the whole time, and its only by God's mercy that I have been able to recognize this. I must repent and rely on God to save me from this. From now on I have to constantly choose Him each time, because only with him will I be able to abandon this filth forever.

On another note, anyone else experience a loss of libido after abstaining for a while?
I'm on a week NoFap so far, so early days. But I'm lifting weights a lot more, which is keeping my libido up (and of course channelling my desires in a healthier way). Have you tried that instead? A normal libido is crucial for testosterone and a healthy life.
 

Akaky Akakievitch

Woodpecker
Orthodox Catechumen
I had a 10 month span and a 7 month span but prior to converting to Orthodoxy I never even came close to these 2 periods of time.

After falling those two times, I was devastated.

I recently lost my dog and have found that I am falling again, not so much to porn, but just acting out.

Just had another fall today after a week.

I was a functioning alcoholic for 25 years and have been sober for a long time now, but this sin is the worst.

I hate it.

I'm with you here.

I'm also currently battling a porn addiction, which is utterly shameful but as you say, it is the worst of all vices.

I've told myself countless times: Porn is evil. Yet somehow that is not enough... I need to keep pushing back against it. The long-term consequences of indulging in pornography are not worth bearing.
 

BillMcNeal

Woodpecker
Other Christian
I had a 10 month span and a 7 month span but prior to converting to Orthodoxy I never even came close to these 2 periods of time.

After falling those two times, I was devastated.

I recently lost my dog and have found that I am falling again, not so much to porn, but just acting out.

Just had another fall today after a week.

I was a functioning alcoholic for 25 years and have been sober for a long time now, but this sin is the worst.

I hate it.
Yeah I can relate. Since that post you quoted I've fallen several times in the last month to old fantasies. I like to think I'm purging them since it's far from a good thing but that's likely wishful thinking. I have been writing down the circumstances that led to it - waking up and not getting right out of bed has been a big one for me.

This is really just a form of slavery that's very difficult to get free of. But we know it's not impossible.
 

Akaky Akakievitch

Woodpecker
Orthodox Catechumen
Just came across this series which specifically tackles how to get free of porn addiction, it looks like a complete approach:



There's a free pdf download he offers too which is really insightful, called "The Reboot Regimen". Seems very generous giving all this away for free. It is indirectly contributing to the Unseen Warfare by encouraging complete abstinence from porn and supreme self-discipline.

Also he makes a good point in the first video, that "quitting porn is a rite of passage for the modern man". This is a great motivating factor.

I've probably managed 2 or 3 months abstinence at best but never kept track of it before.

We've never faced such a pernicious force as we have with high-speed internet pornography, no wonder it is such a mighty challenge.

For anyone who is struggling or keeps relapsing, starting out with an online thread can be helpful too, journalling the process on somewhere like Reboot Nation. There's a lot of secular stuff on these types of sites, but it can serve our goals of becoming porn-free. There are many many resources at our disposal to make it a successful journey, such as those I shared above, so we have no excuse really.

I'm on Day #1 of my reboot, so pray for me that I succeed in achieving the next ninety days of PMO-free living, which will then propel me towards establishing a completely porn-free life. With God, all things are possible - He allowed my fall to teach me a hard lesson about humility and obedience and how much they are missing in my life, as well as self-control and how I lack in other general virtues. Now I have an opportunity to mitigate and master this abhorrent passion once and for all. I'd encourage others who are in a similar situation to do the same.
 

SaintPiusX

Robin
Trad Catholic
Here’s how to quit porn:

1) Go to Mass;
2) Pray 3 Hail Marys every morning and night;
3) Have your wife home with you as much as possible;
4) Keep yourself real busy. I mean, real busy. Plan at least 40 tasks everyday.
5) No alcohol, weed, or narcotics
6) No social media scrolling
7) Avoid seed oils and processed foods
8) Get at least 6 hours a sleep a night. Sleep with your pillow slightly raised.
9) As soon as you awake, get up and say your 3 Hail Marys. Don’t linger in bed like a woman.
10) Exercise every day. Yes, every single day.
11) Don’t fornicate
12) Have cold showers
13) If you feel the urge, pray for 20 minutes straight. The urge will disappear.


That’s it. If you follow these 13 steps, you will never watch porn again. Take it from a former porn addict.
 

Akaky Akakievitch

Woodpecker
Orthodox Catechumen
I previously stated a few posts above, that Pornography is evil - and found this was not enough to help me quit. I realise it takes more than simple statements of fact, but they do help bolster evidence against it and frame it for what it is.

However I'd never considered this statement to ring true until today, ALL PORN IS GAY, but this writer presents a compelling argument:


Forget about what you normally think of gay (same-sex) or straight (opposite-sex attraction.) Think of heterosexuality as monogamous and dedicated to rearing children; homosexuality as promiscuous and concerned with sex for its own sake.

Related to the above:


Playboy's aim, the aim of all pornographers, was to hook men on the glossy fantasy. To do this, they had to prevent them from finding true satisfaction in marriage.

In Reisman's words, "Playboy was the first national magazine to exploit college men's fears of women and family commitment. Playboy offered itself as a reliable, comforting substitute for monogamous heterosexual love." (Soft Porn Plays Hardball, p 47)

Thus "sworn enemies," Playboy and feminists, found common ground in their hatred of healthy heterosexuality expressed in the nuclear family. As a result of the (homo)sexual revolution, society now suffers from epidemics of family breakdown, pornography, impotence, child sexual abuse, sado sexual violence, teen pregnancy, a cocktail of STD's and, of course, AIDS. The birthrate has plummeted by 60% since 1960 and is now below replacement level.

Who do we think is behind it all? Well I know that you know if you're on this forum but here it is nonetheless:


How did society become sex crazed? How did sex get separated from love and marriage? We have been inducted into a satanic sex cult, Cabalist Judaism (Freemasonry.)

Jewish sex addicts like Woody Allen turned us into sex addicts. They trained us to think sex is the Holy Grail. Cabalist Jews believe that sexual intercourse is mystical union with God. Sex and romantic love became our ersatz religion.
Judaism is defined by Cabalism, and Cabalism is Satanism.

Some advice on how we can subdue the male sex drive and achieve full masculinity:


As long as a man craves a woman's (or anyone's) love, he is not a man. He can mark his coming-of-age from the moment he stops seeking female love.

[...]

SUBLIMATION

One acquaintance doesn't masturbate very often. "Why stoke the fires?" he says. He keeps his mind off sex and focuses on more exciting pursuits.

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This is called sublimation. The prodigious American writer Upton Sinclair (1878-1968) left, wrote in his Autobiography (1962):

My chastity was preserved at the cost of much emotional effort...What did I get in return for this? I got intensity and power of concentration; these elements in my make-up were the product of my effort to resist the tempter.

I learned to work fourteen hours a day at study and creative effort because it was only by being thus occupied that the craving for woman could be kept out of my soul. I recited the Wisdom of Solomon: "he that ruleth his spirit is greater than he that taketh a city.
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According to Sinclair, and many religions, the energy goes right to the spiritual bottom line:

Imagine anyone wanting a lot of money or houses and servants or fine raiment if he knew how to be happy as I did! Imagine anyone becoming drunk on whiskey if he might become drunk on poetry and music, sunsets and valleys full of clover! (56)

...and the last one from today's rabbit-hole, which frames the entire situation:

 

JuanChristophorus

Sparrow
Trad Catholic
5) No alcohol, weed, or narcotics
This cannot be stressed enough. When I drink too much I act in a manner that is not me and treat women in a way that I regret in hindsight. There is good reason why alcohol is called "spirits" - it invites other entities to control you.
9) As soon as you awake, get up and say your 3 Hail Marys. Don’t linger in bed like a woman.
That is good advice. Praying a full Rosary (five decades for the day) when you wake up takes too much mental power. But three Hail Marys are enough to get you grounded and to keep you humble.
 

Turner

Chicken
Orthodox Inquirer
One physical thing you can do to aid your spiritual battle against watching porn or being tempted by it is to move when it pops in your head. I found my issue in the past was when I was laying down towards the end of the day and then the urge popped in my head. Instead, whenever that urge popped in my head or I was in a position of laying down that allowed that, I got up and did something. I would go shower, go cook something, go for a walk, or go and do anything that needed to be done that I didn't feel like doing to avoid falling into the trap of falling to my urges.

The gym was a big thing as well. I used to work out after work and made sure I pushed myself as hard as possible to make me as tired as possible. So a lot of times I would come home, eat and shower, then quickly fall asleep because I was exhausted.
 

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Robin
Orthodox Inquirer
One physical thing you can do to aid your spiritual battle against watching porn or being tempted by it is to move when it pops in your head. I found my issue in the past was when I was laying down towards the end of the day and then the urge popped in my head. Instead, whenever that urge popped in my head or I was in a position of laying down that allowed that, I got up and did something. I would go shower, go cook something, go for a walk, or go and do anything that needed to be done that I didn't feel like doing to avoid falling into the trap of falling to my urges.

The gym was a big thing as well. I used to work out after work and made sure I pushed myself as hard as possible to make me as tired as possible. So a lot of times I would come home, eat and shower, then quickly fall asleep because I was exhausted.
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