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<blockquote data-quote="Lex S." data-source="post: 558607" data-attributes="member: 4582">My theory is that you&#039;ll never see a woman&#039;s true colors until you break up. I can&#039;t tell you how many times myself or someone I know has had their self-esteem absolutely destroyed by their &quot;soul mate&quot; during a breakup - The stronger the love, the stronger the hate. On the other hand, my last girlfriend was always really sweet and never gave me too much shit during the relationship, and so when it came time to move on it was civil with no hard feelings. While I could never be friends with her, I wouldn&#039;t mind catching up with her and would be glad to see her if I ran into her.I used to try and remain friends with exes/try and work things out with them, and all that did was lead to prolonged agony and holding on to hope. Now when things don&#039;t work out I cut off all contact. If they contact me I keep it civil and prompt or just ignore them depending on the situation. It&#039;s the only way to move on.But I&#039;m dealing with rose-colored glasses now. The last girl I dated regularly seemed too good to be true, and the short time we were together was intense and felt amazing. Then she went cold on me out of nowhere and became a a completely different person - Very hostile and emotionally manipulative. Then the nostalgia kicked in and I stupidly tried re-establishing contact to work things out and it backfired. So it was back to NC in order to move on. The only problem is a good friend of mine just started dating her almost immediately after I tried to work things out with her, and he hasn&#039;t been able to shut up about how well she&#039;s treating him. And this is making me nostalgia so hard and it&#039;s fucking with my ability to cut her out of my life completely. But I know it&#039;s only a matter of time before her claws come out and he&#039;s in my position. I also know that the sweet girl I met probably wasn&#039;t real, and the cunty behavior is her true attitude. I actually ran into her this weekend, and when she completely ignored me as I tried to say hello it made me realize how much I don&#039;t like her. Also, it weirded me out when I saw him kiss her on the mouth that once took a load of my warm jizz. Now that she&#039;s with someone I know very well I definitely can&#039;t go back, she&#039;s damaged goods.Long story short, you can never go home again. You can&#039;t get back to that honeymoon stage if she&#039;s been vindictive or hostile towards you, because you know that personality might pop up at any time.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Lex S., post: 558607, member: 4582"] My theory is that you'll never see a woman's true colors until you break up. I can't tell you how many times myself or someone I know has had their self-esteem absolutely destroyed by their "soul mate" during a breakup - The stronger the love, the stronger the hate. On the other hand, my last girlfriend was always really sweet and never gave me too much shit during the relationship, and so when it came time to move on it was civil with no hard feelings. While I could never be friends with her, I wouldn't mind catching up with her and would be glad to see her if I ran into her. I used to try and remain friends with exes/try and work things out with them, and all that did was lead to prolonged agony and holding on to hope. Now when things don't work out I cut off all contact. If they contact me I keep it civil and prompt or just ignore them depending on the situation. It's the only way to move on. But I'm dealing with rose-colored glasses now. The last girl I dated regularly seemed too good to be true, and the short time we were together was intense and felt amazing. Then she went cold on me out of nowhere and became a a completely different person - Very hostile and emotionally manipulative. Then the nostalgia kicked in and I stupidly tried re-establishing contact to work things out and it backfired. So it was back to NC in order to move on. The only problem is a good friend of mine just started dating her almost immediately after I tried to work things out with her, and he hasn't been able to shut up about how well she's treating him. And this is making me nostalgia so hard and it's fucking with my ability to cut her out of my life completely. But I know it's only a matter of time before her claws come out and he's in my position. I also know that the sweet girl I met probably wasn't real, and the cunty behavior is her true attitude. I actually ran into her this weekend, and when she completely ignored me as I tried to say hello it made me realize how much I don't like her. Also, it weirded me out when I saw him kiss her on the mouth that once took a load of my warm jizz. Now that she's with someone I know very well I definitely can't go back, she's damaged goods. Long story short, you can never go home again. You can't get back to that honeymoon stage if she's been vindictive or hostile towards you, because you know that personality might pop up at any time. [/QUOTE]

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