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<blockquote data-quote="RockHard" data-source="post: 558614" data-attributes="member: 5772">I want to add5. ChildrenThere is nothing that will stress your relationship like having kids. It&#039;ll fuck up your sex life, fuck up your finances, and it adds to the nostalgia, and you&#039;ll frequently see her at her best (if you did a decent job picking a mother for your children).You&#039;ll keep staying in it saying it&#039;ll be easier when the kids are older.Ask yourself, are you modeling commitment and dedication, or are you modeling to your kids that committed relationships are misery?-----------I&#039;m not writing this to ask for advice, but I&#039;m putting in a personal note so that you know this isn&#039;t just theory. This is real experience.I&#039;ve been divorced a couple months. My oldest is a teenager, and she&#039;s by far taking it the hardest. I really worry about her. The middle one is taking it better, but it&#039;s still hard for her. She misses me a lot sometimes. She went through a bedwetting phase again (she&#039;s 10). The youngest does pretty well. She misses me sometimes and gets sad but she deals with it.My kids think a husband &amp; wife kissing is weird. They think I abandoned them because I&#039;m the one who moved out.My kid has a friend who has extreme anxiety problems that started after her parents split up. Another friend who attempted suicide after her parents split up.I have a co-worker whose parents divorced when she was 25 - she&#039;s about 40 and she said it still hurts. And now I think back to when things really got bad, when my youngest was an infant. Or back in 2012 when I told her I wanted a divorce but backed off mostly because I wanted to stay together &quot;for the kids&quot;, and I realize that all I did was make it worse.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="RockHard, post: 558614, member: 5772"] I want to add [b]5. Children[/b] There is nothing that will stress your relationship like having kids. It'll fuck up your sex life, fuck up your finances, and it adds to the nostalgia, and you'll frequently see her at her best (if you did a decent job picking a mother for your children). You'll keep staying in it saying it'll be easier when the kids are older. Ask yourself, are you modeling commitment and dedication, or are you modeling to your kids that committed relationships are misery? ----------- I'm not writing this to ask for advice, but I'm putting in a personal note so that you know this isn't just theory. This is real experience. I've been divorced a couple months. My oldest is a teenager, and she's by far taking it the hardest. I really worry about her. The middle one is taking it better, but it's still hard for her. She misses me a lot sometimes. She went through a bedwetting phase again (she's 10). The youngest does pretty well. She misses me sometimes and gets sad but she deals with it. My kids think a husband & wife kissing is weird. They think I abandoned them because I'm the one who moved out. My kid has a friend who has extreme anxiety problems that started after her parents split up. Another friend who attempted suicide after her parents split up. I have a co-worker whose parents divorced when she was 25 - she's about 40 and she said it still hurts. And now I think back to when things really got bad, when my youngest was an infant. Or back in 2012 when I told her I wanted a divorce but backed off mostly because I wanted to stay together "for the kids", and I realize that all I did was make it worse. [/QUOTE]

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