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<blockquote data-quote="Freebird Flying" data-source="post: 558636" data-attributes="member: 11224">This thread has also been helpful for me as I have been spinning my wheels the past week like crazy.I had a girlfriend ask for a break after we had an intense fight.&nbsp; During&nbsp; our arguing, she tells me she&#039;s not happy, can&#039;t be her self around me, and also after one fight before a year earlier, she said maybe I don&#039;t deserve her or maybe she should find someone better than me.&nbsp; Those words really made me lack trust in the relationship, but I wasn&#039;t skillful enough to decide to get out but instead I took it to heart and decided that I should improve myself and work on the relationship harder.&nbsp; The reason why is because she had a right to be upset at me.&nbsp; I think she caught me in a lie and probably has some suspicions I was being a bit of player (was true), although she didn&#039;t confront me on it directly.She took a week to go visit family and said she can&#039;t talk to me for a while cause she has school also.&nbsp; She&#039;s not returning my calls for like a week.&nbsp; But to be fair, I had also not always respond every day to her when I&#039;m working I tell her I need to stay off the grid for a few days sometimes.I guess I was ok with her taking a break for a week, but her language was really degrading.&nbsp; How can you tell someone maybe you should find someone better, or maybe you deserve someone better?&nbsp; Then we are back together a month later.&nbsp; And then a couple months, later we have another fight and this one was worse.&nbsp; She&#039;s doing things like not returning I love u.&nbsp; Ignoring me when I speak. Going to sleep when we having a discussion without resolving it.&nbsp;&nbsp; And one night, I started drinking and woke her up and told her to get the fuck out of my apartment.&nbsp; I felt absolutely awful, and she was cool about it enough to try and make me feel better, because she said it scared her.&nbsp; I was actually some anxiety meds and mixed with alcohol and kind of blacked out.&nbsp; I remember bits and pieces of it but not everything.&nbsp; She really was cool with me after that.&nbsp; I can&#039;t ever imagine how bad I would feel if she hadn&#039;t been understanding with me after that.&nbsp; But, I didn&#039;t see her only one time past 4 months since then.&nbsp; But when I saw her, it was a very positive meet.&nbsp; That&#039;s great for both of us to be able to move on.&nbsp; She even gave me an reason I can use for the break up that makes me sound high value that I can DHV myself with, and it works for her also.&nbsp; And we are on good terms.Our 4 year anniversary is here that&#039;s why I&#039;m so in my head about this.&nbsp; So, what I did yesterday read this&nbsp; thread and some other past 2 days and another one.&nbsp; Then today, I started voice journaling the situation for like 10 minutes, and now I feel crystal clear.&nbsp; Time is up.&nbsp; I want to do it in my head right, but my heart is like no mother fucker, you can&#039;t do this.&nbsp; This girl is pure gold.&nbsp; But I have no choice at this point, I lost my frame and so many other issues that I was able to identify while voice journaling, and then replaying the audio, reading some threads such as this one, and thinking about it a lot.I had another relationship where the girl says we would be lifelong friends.&nbsp; But as soon as she got a new boyfriend, she stopped answering my phone calls.I&#039;ve been going out a fair bit.&nbsp; I&#039;m not meeting any girls that seem to measure up to my Ex yet.&nbsp; The relationship has not officially been ended yet.&nbsp; But I&#039;m gonna have to keep looking and push harder and burn the boats because there&#039;s no going back now.But, what I didn&#039;t see in the thread was success stories.&nbsp; Surely someone has had a success story to share where they got back with their girlfriend and it worked out.&nbsp; But perhaps not haha.&nbsp; I think the success stories are about the break ups!Cheers!</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Freebird Flying, post: 558636, member: 11224"] This thread has also been helpful for me as I have been spinning my wheels the past week like crazy. I had a girlfriend ask for a break after we had an intense fight. During our arguing, she tells me she's not happy, can't be her self around me, and also after one fight before a year earlier, she said maybe I don't deserve her or maybe she should find someone better than me. Those words really made me lack trust in the relationship, but I wasn't skillful enough to decide to get out but instead I took it to heart and decided that I should improve myself and work on the relationship harder. The reason why is because she had a right to be upset at me. I think she caught me in a lie and probably has some suspicions I was being a bit of player (was true), although she didn't confront me on it directly. She took a week to go visit family and said she can't talk to me for a while cause she has school also. She's not returning my calls for like a week. But to be fair, I had also not always respond every day to her when I'm working I tell her I need to stay off the grid for a few days sometimes. I guess I was ok with her taking a break for a week, but her language was really degrading. How can you tell someone maybe you should find someone better, or maybe you deserve someone better? Then we are back together a month later. And then a couple months, later we have another fight and this one was worse. She's doing things like not returning I love u. Ignoring me when I speak. Going to sleep when we having a discussion without resolving it. And one night, I started drinking and woke her up and told her to get the fuck out of my apartment. I felt absolutely awful, and she was cool about it enough to try and make me feel better, because she said it scared her. I was actually some anxiety meds and mixed with alcohol and kind of blacked out. I remember bits and pieces of it but not everything. She really was cool with me after that. I can't ever imagine how bad I would feel if she hadn't been understanding with me after that. But, I didn't see her only one time past 4 months since then. But when I saw her, it was a very positive meet. That's great for both of us to be able to move on. She even gave me an reason I can use for the break up that makes me sound high value that I can DHV myself with, and it works for her also. And we are on good terms. Our 4 year anniversary is here that's why I'm so in my head about this. So, what I did yesterday read this thread and some other past 2 days and another one. Then today, I started voice journaling the situation for like 10 minutes, and now I feel crystal clear. Time is up. I want to do it in my head right, but my heart is like no mother fucker, you can't do this. This girl is pure gold. But I have no choice at this point, I lost my frame and so many other issues that I was able to identify while voice journaling, and then replaying the audio, reading some threads such as this one, and thinking about it a lot. I had another relationship where the girl says we would be lifelong friends. But as soon as she got a new boyfriend, she stopped answering my phone calls. I've been going out a fair bit. I'm not meeting any girls that seem to measure up to my Ex yet. The relationship has not officially been ended yet. But I'm gonna have to keep looking and push harder and burn the boats because there's no going back now. But, what I didn't see in the thread was success stories. Surely someone has had a success story to share where they got back with their girlfriend and it worked out. But perhaps not haha. I think the success stories are about the break ups! Cheers! [/QUOTE]

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