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<blockquote data-quote="lonewolf1" data-source="post: 558639" data-attributes="member: 17185"><p>Hey guys, just looking for your point of view.</p><p></p><p>We dated for almost 5 years, lets call it Semi-LTR. Never lived together, a sometimes toxic relationship. She was pretty dependent and crazy for me. Love was very strong. Wanted to see me daily, lots of contact. We saw each other 3-4 times week. </p><p></p><p>She found a new job last 6 months, she changed a bit but was still crazy for me. Sex always rampant.</p><p>It sickered through that she had many guys hitting on her, she found some guys "cute" etc. She made lots of new friends.</p><p></p><p>Last few weeks before the "break" I neglected her quite a bit, probably also cause I felt she became a bit distant but I could not really tell. So I guess automatically applied dread cause I felt something is off and was looking for replacements by cheating, looking back in hindsight.</p><p></p><p>I declined seeing her last days before we had our last call. Still was begging to me see me every day, even the day of the break.</p><p></p><p>Last call: She asked in a cold manner for "time for herself, like you did" but she didnt say how long. I replied, "i respect that, we should close the book here then, and said thank you for the good times and bye"</p><p></p><p>She calls 1 minute later and asks "will you never really see me again? I will always love you, always. What belongs together will stay together". So I guess the usual.</p><p></p><p>Went no contact right away, I was suprised she did not reach out. After 2 weeks, some regrets kicked in for me, I send her an mail, apologizing taking her for granted, thanking her for the good memories and wishing her well.</p><p>No pleading, begging at all. I closed it for me there and then. She never replied.</p><p></p><p>One month after breakup, i get daily calls from her best girlfriend. I mean daily for a week straight, i never picked up and just asked by message what it was. She just wanted to quickly talk to me.</p><p>I did not wanna talk at all. So i changed my number a week or so later and moved on.</p><p></p><p>Suddenly I get an email, around 5 weeks post breakup.</p><p>The best girlfriend says, she could not reach me so she does now by email. My Ex cant talk to me cause it will put her off track so the gf has to do it. She says my Ex appreciated my apology email a lot and thanks me for it. Now to the point: My ex needs all her stuff back that is at my place. She needs it urgently. And the gf is asking if i could mail it to her and clear all things up with her. My ex would very much appreciate it.</p><p></p><p>The funny thing is, the stuff is alomst completely useless. Nothing of value. Some old shirts she never wore for years, shampoo, used cosmetics, a brush, house shoes.</p><p></p><p>Also my ex is asking how I am doing and if everything is alright. I replied with only: "I will have it mailed". Nothing else.</p><p>I mailed it a week afterwards to her house. That has been a few days since.</p><p></p><p>So thats where I am at now.</p><p>Was that a reach out by her to test the waters? Power play? She really wanted the stuff back to close it for her? Dont really get the point here. </p><p>The stuff was totally useless.</p><p></p><p>I told this story to a girl, and she said, your ex could not replace you and wants you back, she realized the mistake. 100%. Dont send the stuff, she will be destroyed.</p><p></p><p>Would love to hear your opinion.</p><p></p><p>Feeling pretty regretful lately, I neglected her, dreaded her last few weeks, months. Cheated on her. Now it looks like she wants back - and I refuse her by sending the stuff. Does it look like that?</p><p>Is it even an option to take an ex back like that if you really were the source of the problems and fucked up?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lonewolf1, post: 558639, member: 17185"] Hey guys, just looking for your point of view. We dated for almost 5 years, lets call it Semi-LTR. Never lived together, a sometimes toxic relationship. She was pretty dependent and crazy for me. Love was very strong. Wanted to see me daily, lots of contact. We saw each other 3-4 times week. She found a new job last 6 months, she changed a bit but was still crazy for me. Sex always rampant. It sickered through that she had many guys hitting on her, she found some guys "cute" etc. She made lots of new friends. Last few weeks before the "break" I neglected her quite a bit, probably also cause I felt she became a bit distant but I could not really tell. So I guess automatically applied dread cause I felt something is off and was looking for replacements by cheating, looking back in hindsight. I declined seeing her last days before we had our last call. Still was begging to me see me every day, even the day of the break. Last call: She asked in a cold manner for "time for herself, like you did" but she didnt say how long. I replied, "i respect that, we should close the book here then, and said thank you for the good times and bye" She calls 1 minute later and asks "will you never really see me again? I will always love you, always. What belongs together will stay together". So I guess the usual. Went no contact right away, I was suprised she did not reach out. After 2 weeks, some regrets kicked in for me, I send her an mail, apologizing taking her for granted, thanking her for the good memories and wishing her well. No pleading, begging at all. I closed it for me there and then. She never replied. One month after breakup, i get daily calls from her best girlfriend. I mean daily for a week straight, i never picked up and just asked by message what it was. She just wanted to quickly talk to me. I did not wanna talk at all. So i changed my number a week or so later and moved on. Suddenly I get an email, around 5 weeks post breakup. The best girlfriend says, she could not reach me so she does now by email. My Ex cant talk to me cause it will put her off track so the gf has to do it. She says my Ex appreciated my apology email a lot and thanks me for it. Now to the point: My ex needs all her stuff back that is at my place. She needs it urgently. And the gf is asking if i could mail it to her and clear all things up with her. My ex would very much appreciate it. The funny thing is, the stuff is alomst completely useless. Nothing of value. Some old shirts she never wore for years, shampoo, used cosmetics, a brush, house shoes. Also my ex is asking how I am doing and if everything is alright. I replied with only: "I will have it mailed". Nothing else. I mailed it a week afterwards to her house. That has been a few days since. So thats where I am at now. Was that a reach out by her to test the waters? Power play? She really wanted the stuff back to close it for her? Dont really get the point here. The stuff was totally useless. I told this story to a girl, and she said, your ex could not replace you and wants you back, she realized the mistake. 100%. Dont send the stuff, she will be destroyed. Would love to hear your opinion. Feeling pretty regretful lately, I neglected her, dreaded her last few weeks, months. Cheated on her. Now it looks like she wants back - and I refuse her by sending the stuff. Does it look like that? Is it even an option to take an ex back like that if you really were the source of the problems and fucked up? [/QUOTE]
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