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<blockquote data-quote="Hypno" data-source="post: 1445488" data-attributes="member: 12416">I would elaborate on this.&nbsp; These periods of uncertainty can cause anxiety or even anger.&nbsp; Those emotions can cripple you and either prevent you from acting positively or cause destructive behavior, like lashing out at others, drug use, etc.Instead, note what is causing you stress and the various facets of it.&nbsp; With your landlord situation, you have the physical - it stinks, the financial - you might have to pay for the repair yourself or worst case have to move.&nbsp; You also have the inconvenience of being strung out, waiting for an answer. But once you define the problem in these terms, and break it apart, it can seem more manageable.&nbsp; For example, you could just clean the carpet yourself at the cost of a few hundred bucks.&nbsp; Or you could find a new place, which is stressful, but might be an oppportunity to get tot a better place. So writing down what is causing you stress can help you to see its limits - a few hundred bucks if I have to pay to clean it myself - or the hidden opportunities in a situation - this is an excuse to move to a better place.&nbsp; This is not instantaneous, but I find if you write it down and look at it once a day, you begin to see your situation from a different perspective and if you sleep on it you often wake with fresh ideas.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Hypno, post: 1445488, member: 12416"] I would elaborate on this. These periods of uncertainty can cause anxiety or even anger. Those emotions can cripple you and either prevent you from acting positively or cause destructive behavior, like lashing out at others, drug use, etc. Instead, note what is causing you stress and the various facets of it. With your landlord situation, you have the physical - it stinks, the financial - you might have to pay for the repair yourself or worst case have to move. You also have the inconvenience of being strung out, waiting for an answer. But once you define the problem in these terms, and break it apart, it can seem more manageable. For example, you could just clean the carpet yourself at the cost of a few hundred bucks. Or you could find a new place, which is stressful, but might be an oppportunity to get tot a better place. So writing down what is causing you stress can help you to see its limits - a few hundred bucks if I have to pay to clean it myself - or the hidden opportunities in a situation - this is an excuse to move to a better place. This is not instantaneous, but I find if you write it down and look at it once a day, you begin to see your situation from a different perspective and if you sleep on it you often wake with fresh ideas. [/QUOTE]

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