Top ten red flags

lunchmoney

Woodpecker
The quarantine has given us all some extra time at home, and I was able to dodge a bullet by committing any additional time or resources to someone I ultimately was not aligned with due to red flags I previously had not seen.

What are some of the obvious (not so obvious) red flags all must pay attention too?

1. Lack of relationship with her mother
2. Addicted to retail shopping
3. Does not cook
 
I've had around a dozen relationships in my time, I'm mid 20s.

Tattoos
Male Friends
Social media user (this one's on a spectrum, an Instagram full of cupcake pics doesn't count)
Smoker (any plant)
Drinker
Unresolved Daddy issues (unsure if this can be resolved for wahmen)
 
I will add those ones:

- Parents are separated or divorced. She will always have this fear of being abandoned again or not being worthy enough and will sabotage relationships because of it.

- She travels a lot. Permission to be slutty without her family and friends knowing it.

- She has a cat. A substitute for the children that she may never have.

- She moved from a small town to a big city to study or work. Sex and the City lifestyle here I am.

- She tells you she's a feminist. In my mind I hear "I have a free pass to be a cunt whenever it pleases me".

- She doesn't believe in God and think Christianity has only done horrible things during history (she will talk about the poor witches that were burnt and the poor muslims that had to convert or leave during the inquisition).

- She is an only child. A big chance that she's entitled.

- She just broke up with her longtime boyfriend. If you hear her talk bad about him like he was "too controlling" you can be sure she's in her "just having fun and enjoying" phase and you're not going to be the only guy she's going to see.

There are plenty more but can't really think of others right now.
 

kel

Kingfisher
A string of "crazy" exes.
Living an eternal-student kinda lifestyle, working on her 4th incomplete masters in some kind of psych/polysci BS, (possibly 30 years old and living a sad simulacrum of that 19-year-old lifestyle)
 
I don't know about top 10 red flags, I do know about 10 words in a sentence that are a red flag:

Any. Woman. Born. Or. Raised. In. America. Above. A. Three.
 

SlickyBoy

Ostrich
Hard to limit it to just ten, or even which ones are top, but here goes:

1) She's on psychiatric medication. Doubly so if unprescribed.
2) Supports abortion, very vocally. Nutty way of saying she regrets hers. Misery loves company.
3) Lots of guy friends. All waiting in line, so to speak.
4) Still facebook friends with "exes" from said group of guys. They aren't exes, they're sexual spare tires.
5) Social pics of herself in skimpy clothes - even from back when she was supposedly "taken."
6) Claims to be sexual assault victim. Yes, even if true, a red flag.
7) Terrible credit rating. Bonus points if tied to worthless college degree with student debt.
8) Has an account with a sugar-daddy type app. As if dating apps weren't bad enough...
9) "Just got out of a bad relationship." Guess which one of them actually went bad?
10) Has ever done porn. Even if she sued the producer after being "tricked" etc.
 

Snag87

Robin
The percentage of women who've done porn has to be extremely low. That said, I believe most women who've performed in porn wouldn't tell the guy they were dating, at least not initially. And given the volume of porn the odds of you procuring the information yourself seems low...
 
The biggest red flag: she doesn't wear a headcovering to church every Sunday.

All my friends who married church-attending, veil-wearing women are doing just fine. For all my other friends, their marriages seem to last maybe two years or so.

Other notable red flags:
- You can imagine her sharing sex stories with her mom.
- Her dad doesn't offer you a dowry.
- Her hymen is not intact.
 

Rob Banks

Kingfisher
1) She's on psychiatric medication. Doubly so if unprescribed.
2) Supports abortion, very vocally. Nutty way of saying she regrets hers. Misery loves company.
3) Lots of guy friends. All waiting in line, so to speak.
4) Still facebook friends with "exes" from said group of guys. They aren't exes, they're sexual spare tires.
5) Social pics of herself in skimpy clothes - even from back when she was supposedly "taken."
6) Claims to be sexual assault victim. Yes, even if true, a red flag.
7) Terrible credit rating. Bonus points if tied to worthless college degree with student debt.
8) Has an account with a sugar-daddy type app. As if dating apps weren't bad enough...
9) "Just got out of a bad relationship." Guess which one of them actually went bad?
10) Has ever done porn. Even if she sued the producer after being "tricked" etc
Most of these are not just "red flags" but absolutely obvious dealbreakers that you would either have to either be retarded or severely blinded by lust to ignore.

Just because a girl doesn't do porn or have a sugar daddy doesn't mean you should ignore "more subtle" red flags.

You point out some of these. Women who take psychiatric meds, support abortion, and have lots of male friend, for example.

I would add wearing makeup or otherwise feeling the need to alter appearance to be "sexier" as a red flag.

Also, I agree with EC that "hymen not intact" is enough of a red flag, with very few exceptions (such as a girl who has repented her sexual sins before God).

"Hymen not intact" extends to girls who are technically virgins but have done anal or oral, regularly watch porn or engage in solo sexual behavior, made out with a ton of guys, etc.
 
Don't forget, sometimes the culture that she's from plays a plays a part in whether something is a reg flag or not. i.e. a filipina with a few male/gay friends is probably not a red flag.
 
For me- one of the main factors is ACTING.
I mean - how much she plays some role in front of me.
In eastern Europe this is very common. Behavior and speaking of women here is extremely fraudulent. I previously wrote somewhere in forum, that i found girls from western countries more genuine in terms of behavior and speach.
 

griffinmill

Kingfisher
1) Tattoos
2) Smokes
3) Poor relationship with one or both parents
4) Jaded; never seems to become shy or nervous around you especially in the early days
5) Casually mentions too many ex-boyfriends (high notch count and an inability to hold down a relationship)
6) Feminist (huge red flag)
7) Claims to have been a victim of rape or sexual assault
8) Uses Tumblr buzzwords like "mansplain" without irony
9) Jumps into bed with you too soon
10) Possessiveness or jealousy (cute at the beginning but can become a prison)
11) Has had an abortion
12) Attention-whoring IG account
13) Listens to contemporary rap music and artists like Drake
14) Silent treatment (another big one, hugely manipulative and immature)
15) Is Russian

These are all the red flags that suggest you're dealing with someone who is simply not right for a long-term relationship. Things that I am willing to tolerate as they don't necessarily suggest a dysfunctional person includes leftism (so long as they're not dogmatic about it and we can have debates) and atheism. These are simply intellectual choices the person has made without making them a bad choice for a relationship as far as I'm concerned.
 
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