Top ten red flags

A long time ago, a woman picked me up on Facebook. She was living in Turkey. Long story short, she was in a divorce and soon to be single mother. She disappeared for a while, then she came back to me with a vengeance, in the virtual world, making me obvious sexual innuendos. Meanwhile, she came back to Romania and wanted to travel about 250 miles to see me and to... you know. Sensing something is wrong, I stalled a bit and I was right. She was love bombing me. I rejected her. Last time I saw her Facebook profile, she works as a DHL driver in Germany and her postings are hard-core religious.

This doesn't sound like repention to me.

She is post-wall, over-the-hill, was probably prostituting herself in Turkey or at least slutting in up without being paid, and now she wants a beta man with the money to put her life back together.

If a European woman spends an extended amount of time, especially alone, or with other women/girlfriends, in a place such as Turkey, Egypt, Dubai, Hong Kong, Singapore, Thailand, etc., she is probably a prostitute. Exceptions are if she was there as a missionary with family, traveling with an aunt and uncle, traveling with her father and sister, etc.

I consider any European woman who frequently travels alone to odd destinations with "exotic" local men, to at a minimum be damaged goods by virtue of being a slut and possibly an outright prostitute/call-girl/escort.
 

Zanardi

Woodpecker
You have a fair point. She is 37 or 38 now, with a 6-7 year old child. Her ex-husband is Turkish (this is why she moved to that country) and, as she claims, she divorced because he didn't give her much freedom (as I understood, the Turkish laws are more strict regarding women). How did she move to Turkey? She and her now ex-husband talked online for about five years.

At least this is what she said to me. If she's lying, then I am lying too.
 
You have a fair point. She is 37 or 38 now, with a 6-7 year old child. Her ex-husband is Turkish (this is why she moved to that country) and, as she claims, she divorced because he didn't give her much freedom (as I understood, the Turkish laws are more strict regarding women). How did she move to Turkey? She and her now ex-husband talked online for about five years.

At least this is what she said to me. If she's lying, then I am lying too.


Most likely she got pregnant as a prostitute or a call-girl/escort or she got pumped/dumped by a local bad boy Turk who thought it was amusing to lay a Romanian slut.

She got pregnant around age 31, right in the perfect 28-32 year old age range for a woman with baby rabies and a raging biological clock to be taken in by a con-artist man promising her the world of commitment and family. She was possibly duped by a player, but she had to play along. Now she's trying to dupe others to pay full sticker price for a damaged used car.

She's either a slut or an outright prostitute, you did well to avoid her.

Women don't spend five years corresponding with a man before they meet and move forward to escalate with a real relationship, engagement, marriage, intimacy, etc. If she claimed she talked with her ex-husband online for five years before they met and married, she is likely lying.
 

Zanardi

Woodpecker
Thanks. It was an easy drop, the first red flag being that she is a single mother. The next red flag was the sudden change in her attitude and the third one was persistence of her innuendos. No woman is this persistent if she doesn't have a hidden agenda.
 
If she has nothing but horrible things to say about ALL of her exes, she is likely a psycho-bitch.

I have known a few women who had 18-20 boyfriends from age 25 to 35, and they were public about all of this on FB, touting each new man as "the one" and talking him up, then after about 3-6 months, the relationship collapsed, she claimed he was an abuser, and then she was on to the next man. What is the likelihood that all 18-20 of those men were abusers?

The woman who is in dozens of intense but unstable relationships is probably a borderline.
 
I actually wrote this up and put it on a secular social media site a number of years ago as to 50 red flags that I identify from the perspective of a man who is seeking a woman. I also did a corollary of 50 red flags for women to look for in men. In any event, I always caution men against sex during courtship for various reasons, the obvious moral issues are obvious, but it also causes us men to throw up blinders and excuse bad behavior or ignore obvious red flags because our judgment gets compromised due to being sex-bombed. A whore will get you so caught up with her body that you fail to realize her heart is poisoned and her soul is corrupted.


These are 50 red flags for men to watch for in women-

1- She is an obvious slut [she offers sex very early].

2- She has inappropriate boundaries [she shares too much, she divulges info on ALL of her exes on the first date, she tells you her step brother molested her when she was 11 years old, ON THE FIRST DATE, she tells you she got raped when she was 13, ON THE FIRST DATE]. She may tell you about her DSM diagnosis and the SSRI she is on. Any woman who wears a diagnosis like a label and leads with her diagnosis is a problem.

3- She is clearly on a mission, perhaps she wants a green card, a bank, and a sperm donor.

4- She openly tells you she want children, ON THE FIRST DATE.

5- She asks you about marriage, ON THE FIRST DATE.

6- She is suspiciously quiet about her past and doesn’t mention a single thing about any past relationship. If you ask her, “What was your last relationship like and why did it end?” she should be able to give a decent but brief answer.

7- EVERY guy she has ever dated was a controlling asshole, jerk, etc. She is the perpetual victim in all of her stories.

8- Her life stories don’t quite add up, something is off, something is wrong, very wrong, she seems to always cast herself as a perpetual victim, an innocent passive object acted upon by nasty men, she has never done anything wrong. She seems to omit key details that would potentially paint her in a negative light.

9- She has no realistic long-term plan or goal in life.

10- She tells you in passing that several of her past boyfriends, suitors, etc., have complained she is a “slut,” a “tease,” “cruel,” “drama queen,” “heartless,” “demanding,” “bitchy” etc. If she is mentioning this and explaining that multiple other men have brought it up, she is showing you a card about herself. CONSIDER YOURSELF Warned. “my last three boyfriends said I was a tease and wasn't serious relationship material” guess what… she probably is a tease and probably isn't serious relationship material. “my fiancee said I was a cruel bitch and broke things off, before that my previous boyfriend said I was a nasty demanding bitch…”

11- She seems to have no regard for other human beings, she doesn’t seem to value people for who they are, but rather what they can do to facilitate her next step in life.

12- Her social media looks like a white-washed template with just a picture, a town, and a date of birth, if that. It looks like she deleted every picture from her [probably wild] college years.

13- She frequently travels and only ever has selfies to show for it.

14- She frequently travels and posts lots of pictures of herself at the beach, half-naked, with lots of strange/random men.

15- She frequently travels and never posts any pictures of any sort and never has any details on any of her travels. [a normal traveler will have perhaps 1% selfies, 1% pictures of themselves taken by another, and then 98% of landscapes, paintings, bridges, forests, lakes, other people, etc]

16- You get the idea she is not capable of emotionally bonding with others.

17- She has no pets and you don’t think she has ever had a pet.

18- She NEVER mentions any friends, she never shares a joke from her best friend, because perhaps she has no best friend.

19- She has friends but all of her girlfriends are superficial basic bitches.

20- She is heavily in debt and drops hints that she expects you to pick up the bills and service her debt.

21- She seems to never be around unless she wants something.

22- She takes 12 hours to open and read your basic text when you send her a funny joke you just heard, she then takes 3 days to respond.

23- She outright tells you she is a princess, a drama queen, or she is entitled to be treated a certain way.

24- Her display of emotion seems unconvincing, forced, and it feels like she is putting on an act.

25- She strikes you as fundamentally superficial.

26- She is constantly drunk and tripping over herself.

27- She categorically refuses to consume alcohol under any circumstances [probably because her daily personality/persona is an act and she might not be able to keep up the act if she got a bit drunk/tipsy- IN VINO VERITAS]

28- She is 110% dedicated to her career, and you realize the most you will be is a bank and an ATM for the trophy kids she wants, who will be raised by strangers in a day care at your expense.

29- She never expresses any interest in your hobbies or your life beyond questions about what you do [how much money do you have?] and where you live [again- indirectly “how much money do you have?”]

30- All of your friends or mutual friends around town tell you that they know her reputation and that she is a mess/slut/user/flake/fake/etc.

31- She has a criminal record.

32- She has an obvious drug problem.

33- She has nowhere stable to live and is looking for a place to live.

34- She is at the wall or close to the wall and she just wants you because you are Mr. Right Now.

35- She doesn’t mirror your level of interest but she wants to continue seeing you. She takes forever to text you back, she doesn’t respond to phone calls or emails, but she keeps showing up for dates, probably because she is getting free meals and she likes the attention you give her.

36- You have dated for several months and don’t even know her parents names.

37- You have dated for the better part of a year and have never met her parents.

38- She sex bombs you when you first meet.

39- She love bombs you when you first meet.

40- She uses sex as a tool to manipulate you, turning the tap on/off depending on what she wants from you and what you have been doing for her.

41- The romance feels rushed or forced and it doesn’t develop organically. Perhaps you wanted to take things slow and see if things would build to a point where you spontaneously have sex sometime during month 4, but she goes down on you on date 2 and offers full on sex on date 6. WATCH OUT.

42- She has never been able to make a relationship work with any man, anywhere, under any circumstances, for more than a few months.

43- Her longest relationship is measured in weeks or a few months [less than 6 months].

44- No man has ever been good enough for her. If she dated a guy for 2 years and he left her to go work in Singapore and she made it clear, “I am not going” and they parted on the terms of “he was so great and amazing, but he picked his career over me, we don’t keep in touch because I had to move on from him because it was so painful, but he was a great guy” that is normal, it is not normal if she has 8 boyfriends in a 2 year period and “every one of those guys was a controlling piece of shit who didn’t appreciate how amazing I am!”

45- She uses phrases such as, “if you can’t handle me at my worst you don’t deserve me at my best.” Guess what, you are never going to get her at her best, this is as good as it is ever going to be and you need to RUN.

46- She is estranged from the vast majority of her first degree and second degree relatives. Mother, father, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles. If she is estranged from both of her parents and all of her siblings, something is terribly wrong. If she is estranged from one or two of her first and second degree relatives that is probably within the realm of normal family feuding.

47- She doesn’t seem to know what loves is and cannot meaningfully describe nor quantify it and has only a cursory immature childish Hollywood view of love.

48- She has no genuine interests and her social media lists “shopping” or “Television” as her interests.

49- She is boring and has nothing to say beyond mundane talk about the weather and her job.

50- She spends more time with her phone than with you.
 
My red flags for women to watch for in men, slightly more than 50.

1- He expects sex on the first date.

2- He sends you dick pics as one of the first messages, and you never asked for genital pictures.

3- He asks you for nudes, at any time, especially before you even meet for the first time.

4- He suggests a first date at a bar.

5- He suggests a first date at his house, a hotel, or a motel.

6- He HATES all of his female relatives and doesn’t get along with any of them. He does not speak to his mother, his grandmother(s), his aunts, his sisters, he hates them all. It is understandable if a man doesn’t talk to his one of his aunts because she is a crazy old bigot or if he cannot get along with his mother because she is nasty, or he cut off one sister because she is an active heroin junkie and a low-level dealer and he cannot have that in his life, but if he is disowned/estranged from ALL of his female relatives, that is a huge red-flag. He also seems to generally and generically refer to all women as “whores,” “c---s,” “bitches,” “sluts,” “skanks,” “slags,” “cum-guzzlers” or some other vulgar vile language which reveals he basically just hates women for being women.

7- None of his life stories add up. He claims he was in the French Foreign Legion but he barely speaks more than a few hundred words in French and he has neither the Kepi nor any pictures of himself in uniform. He claims to be a doctor but he doesn’t seem to know the first thing about human anatomy and you cannot find him on any database of licensed physicians. He claims to be an attorney but he doesn’t know civil procedure from criminal procedure and he is not listed as an active licensed attorney with any state supreme court attorney directory.

8- He has convictions for violent felonies that cannot be adequately explained. “Joe Smith and Bob Jones drugged my sister and raped her, so I caught up with Joe Smith, got him on the ground, and stomped his face and jaw until I broke his jaw and left him a bloody mess, I got a felony assault charge for it, oh well, it happens.” Okay, that makes sense…. Compared with, the red flag of, “I beat a guy with a tire iron in an argument over a parking space.”

9- He is a chronic drunk, alcoholic, he shows up for the first three dates drunk, and he gets drunker on the dates.

10- He drives drunk or while clearly intoxicated.

11- He is actively using narcotics and invites you to join him for a line of coke.

12- He thinks you owe him a blow job because he bought you a hamburger or a pizza on the first date.

13- He lives by the “I want sex within the first three dates” rule.

14- He badmouths all of his exes, “crazy bitch,” “whore,” “slut,” “fat ugly bitch” and has nothing pleasant to say about any of them. It would be normal for him to refer to his recent ex as, “a real fine woman, an elegant classy woman, but she wanted to go to California to do her masters and we had to go our separate ways” and if asked about a woman who cheated on him, his first serious girlfriend, he might say, “she was a real psycho-bitch so to speak, she cheated on me with six different guys in one week, it was like she had a personality disorder or something, I don’t know, it was crazy shit.” Those would be normal. But if he HATES all of his exes, has nothing nice to say about any of them, and continually trashes them, watch out.

15- Every woman he has ever been with was a disaster and he incessantly complains about them, he accepts no responsibility for any role he played in any break up.

16- His displays of emotion are shallow and seem forced. He can turn on the water works at the drop of a dime and just as quickly switch it off.

17- He repeatedly forgets his wallet and expects you to pick up the tab.

18- He demands sex and makes it clear, “put out or we’re done.”

19- He is divorced and has no children but still hangs around his ex-wife.

20- He keeps in frequent contact with all of his ex-girlfriends.

21- He never takes you anywhere on Friday, Saturday, or Sunday, and if he does it was on 30–60 minutes notice. This suggests you are a side piece and he is either married or has a long-term relationship and he is with her on the weekends.

22- You have been dating for several months and have never seen where he works or where he lives.

23- He is fairly wealthy and he takes you to a bare-bones apartment that has almost no furniture [it is possible he is married and has a house somewhere and this apartment is where he takes his side women]

24- He is late and doesn’t apologize, and he has no good reason to explain his lateness.

25- He is disrespectful to waiters, janitors, serving staff, hostesses, and random people.

26- He is cruel to animals or dismissive of their value and their rights and needs.

27- He love-bombs you and talks about “destiny,” “fate,” and how “you are the one,” and that “we are meant to be together” in the first 10–20 dates. If this happens on the first date, RUN. It is even a red flag on date 10.

28- He has no hobbies or interests outside of watching professional sports as a spectator and playing video games.

29- He takes 2–3 days to message you back, probably because his “bros” are telling him, “keep her waitin’ bro!”

30- He is rapidly jealous, possessive, and controlling, telling you after the first date that you can’t wear a skirt and telling you whom you can and cannot talk to.

31- Your friends around town tell you he has a reputation as a player, user, abuser, manipulator, creep, stalker, etc. They might be on to something.

32- He calls you up at weird hours after only a few dates. The day after the first date he calls you at 3:00 am.

33- He confides a lot in you, very early on. He tells you on the first date that he was just treated for syphilis because, “my cheating bitch ex-girlfriend two-timed me and got me infected.” This is plenty reason to immediately end the date and ghost him.

34- He has a history of domestic violence charges that cannot be adequately explained. “Read the police report and the charging document, she pushed me, I pushed her, she hit me, I hit her back, it was a mutual screw up, we were both drunk” that is troubling but nowhere near as problematic as, “I fractured her skull with a baseball bat.” [aside- I did encounter a case with charges of attempt murder and felony assault where a drunk man fractured the skull and broke the arm of his girlfriend as a result of his beating her with a baseball bat- additional aside, she wanted the prosecutor to drop the charges so she could get back with him, she got back with him, and then later he killed her with another bat]

35- He has mommy issues and wants you to mommy him.

36- He has no clue what he wants in life.

37- He talks about marriage on the first date or the first few dates.

38- He talks about how you should have children with him, on the first date or the first few dates.

39- He won’t respect your boundaries in terms of how many weeks/months you want to wait to get to properly know each other before even considering sex.

40- He travels to a lot of sex tourism hot-spots [ALONE, or with 1–2 other men], Fortaleza in Brazil, parts of Thailand, parts of the Philippines, Tijuana in Mexico, various places throughout Latin America, certain parts of Las Vegas.

41- He frequently travels and has nothing to show for it in terms of the complete lack of any photographs of museums, art galleries, lakes, rivers, bridges, mountains, country villages, etc.

42- He has no job, no car, no ambition, and no prospects of having any of those things.

43- He asks to borrow money from you on the first date.

44- He is still obviously hung up on his ex, whether ex-girlfriend or ex-wife.

45- He asks you to be a Friends With Benefits.

46- He seems fundamentally superficial and fake.

47- He is heavily in debt from reckless spending, gambling, poor investments, etc.

48- He doesn’t seem to have any friends and it is questionable if he can meaningfully bond with another human being.

49- He laughs at the misery of others, he sees a handicap person fall out of a wheelchair and he laughs or snickers. He sees a fat person tip over in a motorized cart and he laughs or takes a picture to post on social media.

50- His social media seems very bland, basic, almost like a template of fake respectability with the obligatory several selfies, a name, alma mater, and birth-date, but it doesn’t seem to be a reflection of a real man with a real life.

51- He seems to be too good to be true, he tolerates bullshit from you and you wonder, “why isn’t he calling me out on this bullshit, what is going on?”

52- In passing he mentions that other women have complained he is needy, violent, belligerent, demanding, a bully, fake, lazy, shiftless, whatever it may be. If plenty of other women are concerned he is a lazy shiftless drunk with no ambition or a belligerent demanding violent drunk with a gambling problem, he probably is.

53- He tells too much about his past, too early/too soon.

54- He never reveals any details about his past.

55- His past seems like bullshit and he talks about how he was “with the Navy Seals, but on super classified missions, I can’t talk about it or I’d have to kill you” but he doesn’t seem to be in Navy Seal shape. He may claim he was a secret agent with the CIA or still is, but, “I can’t talk about it.”

56- You learn that he has previously engaged in revenge porn and posted or circulated nude/risque/compromising photos of past girlfriends when those relationships ended.
 

Louis IX

Pelican
If you enjoy doing nice things for people, like I do, the biggest red flag in a woman is to respond to kindness with cruelty or indifference. I pretended to be mean for a decade of my life just because it attracted the kind of woman who put out on the first date but only if you acted like a "bad boy" to her and other people. I got a lot of meaningless sex but at the cost of my own soul. So I think it's wise to do something nice and see how she responds. If she ghosts, no loss. If she responds by doing something nice for you back, then that's something worth exploring.
Absolutely.
In the past I have always asked my "new" girlfriends to buy me something ( usually around 1 Euro) fit next time we meet so I could see if she can take 40 minutes of her time to do it). Moaning or not doing that without giving a clear explanation was a red flag .
 
While pondering about this question, especially (but not only) in the context of Christian dating, a huge red flag and likely dealbreaker is, if, either on her social media profile or in rl, she signals that she is politically interested/active. You really never want to get involved with women that are like that. Worst forms are obviously these types that are „anti-racist“. By saying that you know what you are getting into.
 

get2choppaaa

Pelican
I actually wrote this up and put it on a secular social media site a number of years ago as to 50 red flags that I identify from the perspective of a man who is seeking a woman. I also did a corollary of 50 red flags for women to look for in men. In any event, I always caution men against sex during courtship for various reasons, the obvious moral issues are obvious, but it also causes us men to throw up blinders and excuse bad behavior or ignore obvious red flags because our judgment gets compromised due to being sex-bombed. A whore will get you so caught up with her body that you fail to realize her heart is poisoned and her soul is corrupted.


These are 50 red flags for men to watch for in women-

1- She is an obvious slut [she offers sex very early].

2- She has inappropriate boundaries [she shares too much, she divulges info on ALL of her exes on the first date, she tells you her step brother molested her when she was 11 years old, ON THE FIRST DATE, she tells you she got raped when she was 13, ON THE FIRST DATE]. She may tell you about her DSM diagnosis and the SSRI she is on. Any woman who wears a diagnosis like a label and leads with her diagnosis is a problem.

3- She is clearly on a mission, perhaps she wants a green card, a bank, and a sperm donor.

4- She openly tells you she want children, ON THE FIRST DATE.

5- She asks you about marriage, ON THE FIRST DATE.

6- She is suspiciously quiet about her past and doesn’t mention a single thing about any past relationship. If you ask her, “What was your last relationship like and why did it end?” she should be able to give a decent but brief answer.

7- EVERY guy she has ever dated was a controlling asshole, jerk, etc. She is the perpetual victim in all of her stories.

8- Her life stories don’t quite add up, something is off, something is wrong, very wrong, she seems to always cast herself as a perpetual victim, an innocent passive object acted upon by nasty men, she has never done anything wrong. She seems to omit key details that would potentially paint her in a negative light.

9- She has no realistic long-term plan or goal in life.

10- She tells you in passing that several of her past boyfriends, suitors, etc., have complained she is a “slut,” a “tease,” “cruel,” “drama queen,” “heartless,” “demanding,” “bitchy” etc. If she is mentioning this and explaining that multiple other men have brought it up, she is showing you a card about herself. CONSIDER YOURSELF Warned. “my last three boyfriends said I was a tease and wasn't serious relationship material” guess what… she probably is a tease and probably isn't serious relationship material. “my fiancee said I was a cruel bitch and broke things off, before that my previous boyfriend said I was a nasty demanding bitch…”

11- She seems to have no regard for other human beings, she doesn’t seem to value people for who they are, but rather what they can do to facilitate her next step in life.

12- Her social media looks like a white-washed template with just a picture, a town, and a date of birth, if that. It looks like she deleted every picture from her [probably wild] college years.

13- She frequently travels and only ever has selfies to show for it.

14- She frequently travels and posts lots of pictures of herself at the beach, half-naked, with lots of strange/random men.

15- She frequently travels and never posts any pictures of any sort and never has any details on any of her travels. [a normal traveler will have perhaps 1% selfies, 1% pictures of themselves taken by another, and then 98% of landscapes, paintings, bridges, forests, lakes, other people, etc]

16- You get the idea she is not capable of emotionally bonding with others.

17- She has no pets and you don’t think she has ever had a pet.

18- She NEVER mentions any friends, she never shares a joke from her best friend, because perhaps she has no best friend.

19- She has friends but all of her girlfriends are superficial basic bitches.

20- She is heavily in debt and drops hints that she expects you to pick up the bills and service her debt.

21- She seems to never be around unless she wants something.

22- She takes 12 hours to open and read your basic text when you send her a funny joke you just heard, she then takes 3 days to respond.

23- She outright tells you she is a princess, a drama queen, or she is entitled to be treated a certain way.

24- Her display of emotion seems unconvincing, forced, and it feels like she is putting on an act.

25- She strikes you as fundamentally superficial.

26- She is constantly drunk and tripping over herself.

27- She categorically refuses to consume alcohol under any circumstances [probably because her daily personality/persona is an act and she might not be able to keep up the act if she got a bit drunk/tipsy- IN VINO VERITAS]

28- She is 110% dedicated to her career, and you realize the most you will be is a bank and an ATM for the trophy kids she wants, who will be raised by strangers in a day care at your expense.

29- She never expresses any interest in your hobbies or your life beyond questions about what you do [how much money do you have?] and where you live [again- indirectly “how much money do you have?”]

30- All of your friends or mutual friends around town tell you that they know her reputation and that she is a mess/slut/user/flake/fake/etc.

31- She has a criminal record.

32- She has an obvious drug problem.

33- She has nowhere stable to live and is looking for a place to live.

34- She is at the wall or close to the wall and she just wants you because you are Mr. Right Now.

35- She doesn’t mirror your level of interest but she wants to continue seeing you. She takes forever to text you back, she doesn’t respond to phone calls or emails, but she keeps showing up for dates, probably because she is getting free meals and she likes the attention you give her.

36- You have dated for several months and don’t even know her parents names.

37- You have dated for the better part of a year and have never met her parents.

38- She sex bombs you when you first meet.

39- She love bombs you when you first meet.

40- She uses sex as a tool to manipulate you, turning the tap on/off depending on what she wants from you and what you have been doing for her.

41- The romance feels rushed or forced and it doesn’t develop organically. Perhaps you wanted to take things slow and see if things would build to a point where you spontaneously have sex sometime during month 4, but she goes down on you on date 2 and offers full on sex on date 6. WATCH OUT.

42- She has never been able to make a relationship work with any man, anywhere, under any circumstances, for more than a few months.

43- Her longest relationship is measured in weeks or a few months [less than 6 months].

44- No man has ever been good enough for her. If she dated a guy for 2 years and he left her to go work in Singapore and she made it clear, “I am not going” and they parted on the terms of “he was so great and amazing, but he picked his career over me, we don’t keep in touch because I had to move on from him because it was so painful, but he was a great guy” that is normal, it is not normal if she has 8 boyfriends in a 2 year period and “every one of those guys was a controlling piece of shit who didn’t appreciate how amazing I am!”

45- She uses phrases such as, “if you can’t handle me at my worst you don’t deserve me at my best.” Guess what, you are never going to get her at her best, this is as good as it is ever going to be and you need to RUN.

46- She is estranged from the vast majority of her first degree and second degree relatives. Mother, father, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles. If she is estranged from both of her parents and all of her siblings, something is terribly wrong. If she is estranged from one or two of her first and second degree relatives that is probably within the realm of normal family feuding.

47- She doesn’t seem to know what loves is and cannot meaningfully describe nor quantify it and has only a cursory immature childish Hollywood view of love.

48- She has no genuine interests and her social media lists “shopping” or “Television” as her interests.

49- She is boring and has nothing to say beyond mundane talk about the weather and her job.

50- She spends more time with her phone than with you.
I couldn't even make it through the post.

Either you have had too much time dating shit women... Or you're just looking for reasons to say bad things about hypotheticals on a woman's behavior.

No offense but If I noticed multiple of these traits in a woman I'd pay my bill and leave.

Really it boils down to:

1.
Listen to what a woman says when you're first interacting and let her show you her faults. Men will have them too if we honestly communicate...if something makes you go "huh,that seemed weird" you need to investigate further and make Sure it isn't a character flaw.

2.
If the woman has no serious faith walk and isn't on your level of piety or willing to learn how to take your guidance as a leader... Walk away.

All the lists of red flags take care of themselves if you take the approach above. (I wish I would have done this in my 20s so I could have avoided the pain of a divorce and custody battle that had lingered into my early 30s.)
 

Gremlin

Robin
She is post-wall, over-the-hill, was probably prostituting herself in Turkey or at least slutting in up without being paid, and now she wants a beta man with the money to put her life back together.

If a European woman spends an extended amount of time, especially alone, or with other women/girlfriends, in a place such as Turkey, Egypt, Dubai, Hong Kong, Singapore, Thailand, etc., she is probably a prostitute. Exceptions are if she was there as a missionary with family, traveling with an aunt and uncle, traveling with her father and sister, etc.

I consider any European woman who frequently travels alone to odd destinations with "exotic" local men, to at a minimum be damaged goods by virtue of being a slut and possibly an outright prostitute/call-girl/escort.
Missionaries are also huge red flags for me because this tells me they're trying to get virtue points or are so retarded about world events, people and history in general that they can't comprehend that they cannot save the third world and low IQ people from themselves.
 
I couldn't even make it through the post.

Either you have had too much time dating shit women... Or you're just looking for reasons to say bad things about hypotheticals on a woman's behavior.

No offense but If I noticed multiple of these traits in a woman I'd pay my bill and leave.

Really it boils down to:

1.
Listen to what a woman says when you're first interacting and let her show you her faults. Men will have them too if we honestly communicate...if something makes you go "huh,that seemed weird" you need to investigate further and make Sure it isn't a character flaw.

2.
If the woman has no serious faith walk and isn't on your level of piety or willing to learn how to take your guidance as a leader... Walk away.

All the lists of red flags take care of themselves if you take the approach above. (I wish I would have done this in my 20s so I could have avoided the pain of a divorce and custody battle that had lingered into my early 30s.)


I've found some of the most vile, insincere, disgusting women to be self-confessed Christians and church-going ones at that. Their faith is a smokescreen that they cover themselves with. This is for the more feminine, what we today call "covert" slut. A woman who dresses feminine, walks feminine, talks feminine, but is a covert slut.
 

get2choppaaa

Pelican
I've found some of the most vile, insincere, disgusting women to be self-confessed Christians and church-going ones at that. Their faith is a smokescreen that they cover themselves with. This is for the more feminine, what we today call "covert" slut. A woman who dresses feminine, walks feminine, talks feminine, but is a covert slut.
I think I have only met one such woman in my post divorce galavanting before finding someone with genuine faith...
This person was a product of the "Progressive" type chruches.

But they were pretty easy to asses their genuine understand of Christ once they made statements about white privilege.
 
Missionaries are also huge red flags for me because this tells me they're trying to get virtue points or are so retarded about world events, people and history in general that they can't comprehend that they cannot save the third world and low IQ people from themselves.
I should have been more specific/explicit.

When I said "missionary with family" I meant as in, she was 15 years old or 16 years old and her parents took her along to some country. I am suspicious of any adult woman, especially a white western woman, who goes as a missionary, to weird countries, especially alone.
 
All true. The Borderline can also be quick to call the cops on a man for heated yet relatively simple situations that can be resolved with some civil dialog (as would typically be the situation between two normally functioning non-BPD individuals).


I encourage a man to immediately end a relationship if a woman causes a scene that winds up involving the police, especially if she is the one who calls the police.

When a woman calls the police on you what that means is she is implicitly stating she is okay with other men possibly beating, tazing, or even shooting/killing you. She is calling men with guns to the scene to do her bidding.

End the relationship, block her everywhere, and if necessary, move.
 
I actually caused a stir in law school when I said I do not believe police should respond to calls of domestic disturbances/disputes because I consider it an improper allocation and misuse of police resources and that it is not the job of public employees to intrude into family disputes.

Of course somebody wanted to know, "what if the man is beating her?" my response is, "then she can leave, what is adding police into the mix going to do?"

I have talked with some police who get called to the same residence 10-15 times per year for what wind up being mutual fights, the woman is beating on the man, the man beats on the man, one or both people get arrested, they are out in 2-3 days, the woman begs the local prosecutor not to prosecute the man, they are all over each other practically fornicating in front of the jail immediately after being released, and then two weeks later they're back to beating up on each other while drunk in a bar. The police are sick of being dispatched to what they consider "waste of time" calls.


I am of the view that if a 911 call is received, "my boyfriend just hit me" the dispatcher should say, "sounds like you have relationship problems, take care of yourself, bye."

I don't consider it an emergency worthy of police resources, let alone prosecution. I don't think anybody should have a license to beat another human being, but I don't consider a domestic spat a police matter. If somebody is threatening the other with a weapon or trying to keep them from leaving when they want to leave, then it becomes a police matter.

"I slapped my boyfriend, he pushed me, I slapped him again, he hit me, so I threw a bottle at him" is a Jerry Springer episode, not a police matter.
 


If a woman has ever accused a man of domestic violence, whether formally before the police/authorities, or running her mouth around town, I consider it a huge red flag and I write her off as somebody I won't even associate with in passing; she is a threat to any man's Second Amendment rights.

Most men have been cheated on at some point. It doesn't mean they name/shame women around town in a public fashion.

If a woman was actually slapped around by a man and she blabs about it publicly around town, she is a loud-mouth. If she wasn't really slapped around then she is a liar. Either way it isn't a good sign.
 

The_Trigg

Robin
1) Single Mom
2) Divorced
3) Not a virgin
4) Not intending to save herself for marriage (if still a virgin)
5) Tattoos
6) DRINKS
7) Smokes
8) Bad credit score, past bankruptcies or financial problems
9) Overweight
10) SSRI or other drug use

Bonus:
11) Daddy/Mommy Issues
12) Not living with parents
13) Hates Christianity, or is Secular/other religion
14) Hates Patriarchy
15) Hates Men
16) Dominant Personality Type
17) Admits to having one or more abortions
18) Is currently on, or ever has been on, birth control
19) Male Friends
20) Admits to being a prostitute or fantasizing about being a prostitute
21) Single over 25
22) Does not dream of being married with children, puts career above family.
23) Works in industries like waitress, hairdressing where cash tips are received on a regular basis.
24) Went to college, esp to pursue a degree in business, or anything other than education/teaching degree.
25) Piercings anywhere besides single, traditional ear lobe piercing
26) Revealing/Tight clothing when out in public
27) If you go on a date with her and she randomly knows one or more men who happen to also be at the date location.
28) Short hair
29) Admits to having a "slut phase"
30) Masculine/Androgynous
31) Has ever voted for, or supported, any political candidate who supports abortion or any other leftist social cause.
32) Feminist
33) Is older than you
34) Divorced Parents
35) Secular/non-Christian parents
36) Father raised her with "princess" mentality
37) Father ignored her
38) Mother on SSRIs, excessive drinking, or any other psychotropic medication
39) Has traveled extensively
40) Is a different Christian denomination than you
41) Can't cook, or doesn't want to
42) Was ever a stripper, onlyfans, etc (See #23, jobs that routinely receive cash tips)
43) Excessive social media use
44) Has Master's or other advanced degree (or in the process of obtaining said degree).
45) Offers sex before marriage.
46) College drop out.

Not saying she can't have any of these, but like all red flags, the more there are, the worse it will likely be.
 
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