Traits to look for in a mother?

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BlackFriar

 
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I might not type coherently a lot...sometimes. But it all comes down to this: whether you are trying to be in a relationship, or out having sex for fun. What kind of a person are you? That is what you have to search for and find out.

What do you say about yourself? But here is also another aspect of this: when you figure out what kind of person you are. Especially...if you are not happy with where you are at or what you are doing. You can change it.

I hear Roosh say in his videos still that he is a devient....or whatever he actually thinks? I kniw I do these things too. Especially since I am overweight, work crazy hours and eat like crap.

But how do you expect any one to like you? If you do not like yourself? What do you say about yourself? What kind of mental image do you portray to the world?

If you get this thinking right, it will do wonders. Things will change.

I know there are mean and ugly people in the world. I know there is all kinds of nasty things. But when hasn't there been? Every generation thinks this is the worst. Do not fall for that. Do not worry about what it is like on the outside. Worry about what you are like...on the inside.

Change yourself and keep on going.

This forum now is supposedly Chriatian...or focused on other things now. If this is true, do people really know who is in control? God is. The Devil has control over a lot of things down here. But for whatever reason...I do not know why...I just trust. God is in control. If you do not understand why. That is ok. Just trust. Do what you can do. Let God do what He can do.

You all ready know what will come in the last days. So, enjoy the journey. The destination is already coming.

If people want relationships. They can have it. It might take awhile. But start with yourself. You reap what you sew.

Plant a good seed. Plant in good soil. Nuture your seed and it will grow into something good.
 
Mage

Mage

 
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There is no difference between traits in looking for mother and traits in looking for wife.

But psychologically men would do well when looking for wife to to always remember that they are also looking for future mother of their children. This will make the selection process much more demanding and effective.

While for some men it seems common sense, I suspect that many men are foolish and only look for superficial qualities in women, imagining nothing much but dates and bedroom time, not seeing the almost certain near future of children. The more a bastard the man is - the more he sees a woman this way. A bastard is a man or woman untrained into thinking in family terms - likely someone who grew up with an absent or divorced parent. Men who are raised in stable families themselves will be less likely to have this problem, although no one is fully protected from any dysfunctional influence in modern society.
 
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El Chinito loco

 
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My wife is a fantastic mother to our child.

Some advice:

Look for a woman who isn't materialistic. Someone who knows how to save and make use of resources is someone who has low time preference.
(This is a pretty important indicator of what woman will have patience when raising a child and will nurture even when it comes to making personal sacrifices.)

A woman who isn't career orientated. This is self explanatory. Career fem bots do NOT make good moms. I've seen some who just dump their kids with nannies so they can continue to climb some pointless corporate ladder and attend cocktail parties.

Find someone who believes in traditional culture. Unfortunately America is pretty fucked in this regard but there are pockets everywhere in the world where gender roles are still very meaningful.

Social media obsession is also a bad sign. It's a sign of narcissism (selfishness) and someone who is narcissistic will not make a good mom.


I also don't recommend wifing up a woman who has kids. Don't be that guy who is the baby daddy to some other man's kids even if you end up having your own together. I'm sure this role works out in a few exceptional cases but raising a kid is already hard enough you don't need these other complications.
 
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LordTBE

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El Chinito loco said:
My wife is a fantastic mother to our child.

Some advice:

Look for a woman who isn't materialistic. Someone who knows how to save and make use of resources is someone who has low time preference.
(This is a pretty important indicator of what woman will have patience when raising a child and will nurture even when it comes to making personal sacrifices.)

A woman who isn't career orientated. This is self explanatory. Career fem bots do NOT make good moms. I've seen some who just dump their kids with nannies so they can continue to climb some pointless corporate ladder and attend cocktail parties.

Find someone who believes in traditional culture. Unfortunately America is pretty fucked in this regard but there are pockets everywhere in the world where gender roles are still very meaningful.

Social media obsession is also a bad sign. It's a sign of narcissism (selfishness) and someone who is narcissistic will not make a good mom.


I also don't recommend wifing up a woman who has kids. Don't be that guy who is the baby daddy to some other man's kids even if you end up having your own together. I'm sure this role works out in a few exceptional cases but raising a kid is already hard enough you don't need these other complications.
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Excellent post.

From experience. A girl who can cook and clean, wants a family, loves babies, doesn't "go out".
 
Louis IX

Louis IX

 
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See how she smiles when she sees other kids in the street.
If you see her smile is 100% honest , then it s a good sign.
Women have fake smiles , or no smiles at all when they see my kids in the street. Some women have smiles full of love.

You have to look for these ones
 
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