I barely recognise the man I was ten years ago. My ideas on culture, nationalism, feminism, equality and so many other issues have completely changed. The man I am now would have hated the man I have become.
Some of my ideas have gradually evolved over time, and I expect them to continue evolving. Some have changed instantly as a result of my experiences, where things I was supposed to believe and was taught to believe simply didn't make any sense.
Here's one example. I believed that abortion was a basic right. I believed that women should have control of their reproductive capacity. And for a young man with little world experience, this wouldn't be an unreasonably position to take. So when I got a girl pregnant in my early 20s, it didn't seem like a big deal. We stalled for a while, but eventually came to the mutual decision to visit a clinic. It was an extremely easy process - the procedure was done the morning after our initial consultation and it wasn't expensive. I was the only man accompanying his girl in the waiting room, but I was astounded how many young women there were. It was like a factory. After the procedure, all I could feel was a huge sense of relief, as I didn't think I was in any position to be a father.
And then overnight, her whole personality changed. She went from being a pleasant, joyful girl to being a moody bitch. I remember waking up in the middle of the night on multiple occasions to the sound of her uncontrollable sobbing. The relationship didn't last much longer, and we didn't really discuss her abortion. But she had become a broken person, and the only change in her life was that she had literally had life sucked from her body.
It's very well to discuss the virtues of abortion when it's not something you have experienced first hand. For the women who have aborted their child and say they are fine with it, I believe they are either lying or are a small minority. After seeing first hand how this simple medical procedure caused the emotional destruction of an otherwise good woman, it's hard not to recognise this as a bad thing. I believe that a majority of women who go through with an abortion will never be the same again. I often wonder what my life would be like if we kept the baby, and I did the respectable thing of marrying her.
I can pinpoint this experience as the first jolt which led me down the path to becoming the man I am today.