I know someone who knows something is wrong, and he's confused. I think he needs to ease into an understanding.
He's an older married professor who has been talking about his publicly. For explanation, I'm thinking more about why things have changed.What are you trying to explain to him?
Frankly I think a lot of people make it too difficult. It's simple. Find a woman who you are sexually attracted to AND isn't a fucking mess. And by not a fucking mess, I mean one who has faith and isn't a walking existential wreck. Don't bother looking IRL, you'll need to use GOOD online Christian dating sites or forums like these (where I met my wife). Maybe Church, if you go to a based church. However you'll probably have to go online.
Once you find this person, get engaged immediately and marry within 6 months. Don't have sex before marriage. Have kids right away.
The problem is so many people over think it, or mix half Christian ideas with half Modernist/atheistic ideals to create their own little "personal philosophy" which is a mess.
Dr. Warren Farrell and his resources are a great component in gaining knowledge about some of the broader dynamics in men and boys. I strongly recommend his book he did with Dr. John Gray. It's called The Boy Crisis. Find my book review on it on YT by my name.