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<blockquote data-quote="Caladbolg" data-source="post: 1090110" data-attributes="member: 12796">I'm not saying to talk endlessly about yourself. I'm saying that if you want to be interesting, half the battle is learning to speak in an interesting way. You can certainly pull hookups on nothing but questions, quips, and body language, but the question isn't about the most expedient pickup, it's about being interesting.Learning a language is interesting in an abstract sense, but no one wants to hear about all the time you spent memorizing noun cases in Russian. If you can't tell an interesting story with emotion and vivid imagery about an experience learning or speaking the language, then all the effort you put into it pays off socially only with a quick DHV.Travelling is interesting, but unless you can tell a story, all it amounts to socially is a quick DHV and some photos.The trick is learning to do it well. Skim through the boring parts, distill the good parts, involve your audience and don't rely on it as your only social skill.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Caladbolg, post: 1090110, member: 12796"] I'm not saying to talk endlessly about yourself. I'm saying that if you want to be interesting, half the battle is learning to speak in an interesting way. You can certainly pull hookups on nothing but questions, quips, and body language, but the question isn't about the most expedient pickup, it's about being interesting. Learning a language is interesting in an abstract sense, but no one wants to hear about all the time you spent memorizing noun cases in Russian. If you can't tell an interesting story with emotion and vivid imagery about an experience learning or speaking the language, then all the effort you put into it pays off socially only with a quick DHV. Travelling is interesting, but unless you can tell a story, all it amounts to socially is a quick DHV and some photos. The trick is learning to do it well. Skim through the boring parts, distill the good parts, involve your audience and don't rely on it as your only social skill. [/QUOTE]

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