What Do You Need?

Roosh

Cardinal
Orthodox
Originally posted on RooshV.com

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You think you know what you need. You have a list of desires that, once received, you believe will allow you to enter a state of bliss and joy, a life of winning and dominance over your inferiors. You spend many years to achieve these ends, yet once you have them, you are less joyful than you imagined and for less time, because you merely sated temporal desires—not needs—that thrust you into the arms of Satan instead of God.

I thought I needed women for my happiness, not love but fornication, with all the women who were willing. I got that and I still wasn’t happy. So I decided what I really needed was a multitude of women in exotic lands, that I must fornicate with women who had sexy accents. Yet I got that and was not filled. So I decided to make a lot of money from publishing sex guides, that money in my bank account would give me meaning and bliss, an objective measure of my superiority. Yet it didn’t. Then I stumbled upon Zen Buddhism and Osho. Worldly wisdom from slow-talking Asiatic men will save me! Yet it seemed to only save the gurus with wealth and female groupies. Then I decided it was just one woman who I needed, a secular woman who saw the world as transactional and carnal as I did. Yet that ended in failure and heartache. All the things I thought I needed were distractions and blockages to my true need of salvation through Lord Jesus Christ.

Rarely a week goes by that a man doesn’t email me with his womanly problems. He needs a woman to love and marry, and yet there are no good women, so he is depressed and unfulfilled. Marriage is a sacrament, a blessed institution given to us by God, but first we must be married to God by picking up and carrying our cross, not merely to serve oneself with pleasantries and the comfort and dignified status of being a family man. Men think they need a woman, but they need the faith first. If they land a woman without God, they will soon come to realize that their new need is to escape the yoke of being married to a woman who has not God.

And what about a woman of this generation? She asks for a career and the strength to be independent of men while sleeping with many of them who are at her beck and call. She spends the peak years of her fertility, which were given to her by God to create a family, to damage herself in body and soul. She achieves her “strength” in the form of addictions to food and wine and pills, a mockery of the strength exhibited by Christian mothers who daily serve the little church of a family home, and in moments of insobriety she will wail for hours to a friend of like kind about the cruelty of her “bad luck.” Material blessings are only a blessing if it strengthens your faith in God, but if those blessings allow you to never remember God or run away from committing to prayers of thanksgiving, what you received was not from God.

Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.

Whatever I think I need, I can ask God, but if granting my wish puts me on the road to hell, He will not give it. If you ask for what will deliver your soul from condemnation, God will answer, and if you don’t know what to ask, then you should ask Him what it is you should ask. God is not here to satisfy your warped desires and disordered passions; He will not grant you prosperity disconnected from salvation.

We don’t need what we think we need, and as my faith continues to grow thanks to God, I see that there is nothing material I truly need outside of food, water, and shelter, and my true needs for all of my life are God’s mercy and God’s strength, and as long as I have those, the needs that I long ago coveted become revealed as desires, put into me by the demons. Lord, have mercy on me, and allow me to endure tribulation, for only you know what I need, only you know what will exalt my soul.

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messaggera

Kingfisher
Woman
Zen Buddhism

My husband and I had a conversation the other night. He asked how did you go from being raised Catholic to Buddhism? When we met he was on the path to Christ and I labeled myself Buddhist or Agnostic. Looking back how embarrassing.

I told him the truth: being agnostic allowed me to accept all the great personality/characteristic traits I was taught within Christianity, but allowed me to continue my sins with no accountability or shame.

I was deceived and led astray from the truth, Christ our saviour. I am ashamed to have used God’s gifts given to me to sin with other fornicators.
 

bxr

Chicken
This really hit home RooshV. I have been doing a lot of reflecting on "what I need" in 2021. I'm pretty much done with any further materialism gains or money aqquistion for the sake of it. I have a ways to go, but hopefully I am getting towards the right track.
 
A quote from the great late twentieth century masterwork Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk:

"You buy furniture. You tell yourself, this is the last sofa I will ever need in my life. Buy the sofa, then for a couple years you’re satisfied that no matter what goes wrong, at least you’ve got your sofa issue handled. Then the right set of dishes. Then the perfect bed. The drapes. The rug. Then you’re trapped in your lovely nest, and the things you used to own, now they own you."

And a quote from the brilliant seventeenth century Catholic theologian, philosopher, and mathematician Blaise Pascal's Pensees:

"All men seek happiness. This is without exception. Whatever different means they employ, they all tend to this end. The cause of some going to war, and of others avoiding it, is the same desire in both, attended with different views. The will never takes the least step but to this object. This is the motive of every action of every man, even of those who hang themselves.

And yet after such a great number of years, no one without faith has reached the point to which all continually look. All complain, princes and subjects, noblemen and commoners, old and young, strong and weak, learned and ignorant, healthy and sick, of all countries, all times, all ages, and all conditions.

A trial so long, so continuous, and so uniform, should certainly convince us of our inability to reach the good by our own efforts. But example teaches us little. No resemblance is ever so perfect that there is not some slight difference; and hence we expect that our hope will not be deceived on this occasion as before. And thus, while the present never satisfies us, experience dupes us, and from misfortune to misfortune leads us to death, their eternal crown.

What is it then that this desire and this inability proclaim to us, but that there was once in man a true happiness of which there now remain to him only the mark and empty trace, which he in vain tries to fill from all his surroundings, seeking from things absent the help he does not obtain in things present? But these are all inadequate, because the infinite abyss can only be filled by an infinite and immutable object, that is to say, only by God Himself.

He only is our true good, and since we have forsaken Him, it is a strange thing that there is nothing in nature which has not been serviceable in taking His place; the stars, the heavens, earth, the elements, plants, cabbages, leeks, animals, insects, calves, serpents, fever, pestilence, war, famine, vices, adultery, incest. And since man has lost the true good, everything can appear equally good to him, even his own destruction, though so opposed to God, to reason, and to the whole course of nature."
 
My husband and I had a conversation the other night. He asked how did you go from being raised Catholic to Buddhism? When we met he was on the path to Christ and I labeled myself Buddhist or Agnostic. Looking back how embarrassing.

I told him the truth: being agnostic allowed me to accept all the great personality/characteristic traits I was taught within Christianity, but allowed me to continue my sins with no accountability or shame.

I was deceived and led astray from the truth, Christ our saviour. I am ashamed to have used God’s gifts given to me to sin with other fornicators.
With Buddhism there is a consequence by sinning. The Buddhism that's here in the west is watered down and secularized. If you don't "follow the path" you will be affected by the negative karma that you have accumulated, thus causing you not to reach "Samsara" thus causing you to go through X amount of rebirths until you are once again human and fix your karmic issue.

I am happy you found your way back to Christianity though.

Also, great article, keep it up.
 

ItsK

Chicken
Woman
Humans do need companionship though. God even says so, right after he makes Adam, that it is not good for man to be alone. It's not even necessarily sexual. Elijah was all messed up mentally and emotionally because he was lonely, and God had to send him a friend go with him. Even the apostles were sent off in pairs. I feel a lot of sympathy for all these single young people. It's an extremely unnatural state of affairs that so many people remain single into their 30s, their 40s and it's not good for them to live like this. I pray you will meet somebody soon who will give you companionship and support you through your days.
 

MajorStyles

Pelican
My husband and I had a conversation the other night. He asked how did you go from being raised Catholic to Buddhism? When we met he was on the path to Christ and I labeled myself Buddhist or Agnostic. Looking back how embarrassing.

I told him the truth: being agnostic allowed me to accept all the great personality/characteristic traits I was taught within Christianity, but allowed me to continue my sins with no accountability or shame.

I was deceived and led astray from the truth, Christ our saviour. I am ashamed to have used God’s gifts given to me to sin with other fornicators.

This really explains the Western interest in Orientalism quite well. It provides the veneer of spirituality, yet it allows people to sin without consequence. There is the abstract threat of karma, which is easily shaken off.
 
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