What does it feel like to be an unattractive woman?

I found this Quora topic to be fascinating. Women opened up about how a lack of physical beauty, or even just being average in looks, hindered their lives... As the old saying goes, "being beautiful is money in the bank and it opens doors!"

I can't get over how I recently learned that a Ms. Universe Pageant winner, Pia Wurtzbach was worth nearly two hundred million dollars, just five years after having won the pageant. That blows out of the water what most top pro athletes or actors make during a five year span of time.

 
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gework

Ostrich
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Dr. Howard

Peacock
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From the Quora post I can see it reiterates what I have found with unattractive women. They know what its like to be bullied, lied to and mocked. This makes them appreciate kindness, honesty and loyalty as well as being compassionate, empathetic people...or at least it used to. I also find that it on the negative it can make them into militant socialists who want the government to save them.

I remember one girl that I knew that had a degenerative muscle disease and used to those arm brace/crutch things. She was one of the brightest and most pleasant personalities I have ever met. She took care of herself, and dressed well etc. Her personality really cast a contrast against the ugly personalities of the much hotter able bodied women around her.

While I generally advocate against female friends, some genuinely ugly or disabled female acquaintances will help you see life differently. They can also usually spot a "fake" personality from a mile away as they have heard it all their whole lives.
 
From the Quora post I can see it reiterates what I have found with unattractive women. They know what its like to be bullied, lied to and mocked. This makes them appreciate kindness, honesty and loyalty as well as being compassionate, empathetic people...or at least it used to. I also find that it on the negative it can make them into militant socialists who want the government to save them.

I remember one girl that I knew that had a degenerative muscle disease and used to those arm brace/crutch things. She was one of the brightest and most pleasant personalities I have ever met. She took care of herself, and dressed well etc. Her personality really cast a contrast against the ugly personalities of the much hotter able bodied women around her.

While I generally advocate against female friends, some genuinely ugly or disabled female acquaintances will help you see life differently. They can also usually spot a "fake" personality from a mile away as they have heard it all their whole lives.

It is very eye opening that physical beauty can so easily be an impairment for women, in terms of developing character. And yet being plain or even ugly, can usually, but not always, build character. Then again, there is also truth regarding the term "beautiful freak." Exceptionally beautiful women can feel extremely put upon, too, by the world.

I noticed in highschool, college and even at church, that female 7's, and 8's tended to be the stuck up ones, while the rare 9's and 10's were often, though not always, more caring, decent and empathetic.
 
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911

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Very unatractive women still look good enough in their early 20s from the perspective of the men at the bottom of the attractiveness scale. In older times, these two types would pair off and get married young.

The problem is when they get to middle age and they hit the wall, a brutal process, even for the women who were moderately attractive in their youth, as they lose that small capital of beauty as they get old. Along with the physical decline, you have bitterness settling in so they become ugly inside and out.
 

Gimlet

Woodpecker
Interesting topic, I wonder if women 5 and below are willing to shack up with men who are 5 and below? Something tells me that their woes come from the inability to act on hypergamy. That, and bad genetics. Nature does as it pleases, to the detriment of some, to the benefit of others.

A 5-6 is average. Most of us fall here. Most of the posts I read on the Quora thread are lazy women. Most are fat, which is something that can be changed with work. Being average + fat is what makes a woman unattractive. The world was filled with 5s marrying 5s; now everyone (especially women) thinks dating is like shopping on Amazon; what ever looks good should be available with a click.
 

Dr. Howard

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It is very eye opening that physical beauty can so easily be an impairment for women, in terms of developing character. And yet being plain or even ugly, can usually, but not always, build character. Then again, there is also truth regarding the term "beautiful freak." Exceptionally beautiful women can feel extremely put upon, too, by the world.

I noticed in highschool, college and even at church, that female 7's, and 8's tended to be the stuck up ones, while the rare 9's and 10's were often, though not always, more caring, decent and empathetic.

A little off topic, but a good point. I have observed this sometimes as well, my only guess is that a girl in the 9-10 range has a personality developed enough to round off the sluttiness and bad attitude that a 7-8 has and this is reflected in their appearance.

I recall this girl in college that I would say is a 10. Physically very beautiful, but humble, dressed conservatively, friendly and approachable. She was also compassionate and was often that person sort of sweeping the drunks out of the dormitory hallway but was never blackout drunk herself. This woman was so humble that we all only found out that she had won the dean's award for the top 10 academic marks in the entire university by reading it in the paper. She ended up marrying some mystery man, much older than herself.

My opinion is that 9-10 girls appear as such an obvious social threat to other women just because of their appearance that 6-8s will take them down like jackals to ensure that they do not scoop up top quality men that they want.
 

Radoste

Sparrow
My opinion is that 9-10 girls appear as such an obvious social threat to other women just because of their appearance that 6-8s will take them down like jackals to ensure that they do not scoop up top quality men that they want.
The crabs-in-a-barrel principle applies to any situation where inferiority is exposed to superiority. When those occupying the lower position lack humility and a respect for hierarchy, there always accompanies the egocentric impulse to drag the superior down to their level.
It is the infernal mob justice of the mediocre.
 

Waverer

Robin
A 5-6 is average. Most of us fall here. Most of the posts I read on the Quora thread are lazy women. Most are fat, which is something that can be changed with work. Being average + fat is what makes a woman unattractive. The world was filled with 5s marrying 5s

Well said. If I walk around my city for a few hours and count the women of child bearing age I don't want to bang, it's 90% size, 10% ugliness.

The problem is even 2s and 3 obese women have had drunken sex with 5 and 6 males and think that's what they deserve. 0-4 men aren't given any false hope.
 
Well said. If I walk around my city for a few hours and count the women of child bearing age I don't want to bang, it's 90% size, 10% ugliness.

The problem is even 2s and 3 obese women have had drunken sex with 5 and 6 males and think that's what they deserve. 0-4 men aren't given any false hope.

In my late twenties I was in a restaurant with a bunch of friends. A plain and overweight girl in the group stated confidently that she knew she was attractive to men, because they would have sex with her! Lol This caused all of the male eyes to silently get wide in response, and a friend of mine noticeably choked on his beer, as he took a gulp right as she made her declaration! No one chose to correct her on her notion...
 

Blade Runner

Kingfisher
Isn't the best combination (and the most rare) the 7+ that grew up not standing out, or was a late bloomer, buy for some reason by 21 was solid in both looks and personality? I am recalling nearly all the middle school girls who were super cute being peakers, the equivalent to a guy who "peaks in high school." The problem is that from a man's point of view, most women are their "hottest' at age 16. It's just a conflicting thing since they are legally off limits, so of course you'll never hear this spoken, obviously since anything surrounding it at all is verboten.
 

Gimlet

Woodpecker
Well said. If I walk around my city for a few hours and count the women of child bearing age I don't want to bang, it's 90% size, 10% ugliness.

The problem is even 2s and 3 obese women have had drunken sex with 5 and 6 males and think that's what they deserve. 0-4 men aren't given any false hope.

They need to watch this savage movie I randomly watched based on this odd graphic:

Pig Hag


Obese fat social media addicted drunk gets pumped and dumped by man out of her league, spirals out of control because he vomits when he sobers up the next morning, whores herself out the way her sodomite friends do, it does not work so she ends up miserable. The End.
 
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Beaker

Robin
Interesting topic, I wonder if women 5 and below are willing to shack up with men who are 5 and below? Something tells me that their woes come from the inability to act on hypergamy. That, and bad genetics. Nature does as it pleases, to the detriment of some, to the benefit of others.

Even average women can't get commitment, which is what they want, at least not with the personalities they have. Good looking women are ending up divorced more than ever too.

Women have it really bad, that's why the younger generation is going on OnlyFans. The culture bumps up their egos with feminism and that makes healthy relationships near impossible, yet they can't realize why.
 

TheMaleBrain

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I'll add my observation:
Women deep down want to be "beautiful" (= have a lot of male attention and options). Tied up to the "princes" fantasies. Remember that Cinderela's only qualification for marrying the prince (apart from hard labor, which he didn't know about) was her "looks".

Most females are very insecure about it and unattractive girls develop a mechanism to deal with it(e.g. focusing on other traits, bashing the competition).

Interesting topic, I wonder if women 5 and below are willing to shack up with men who are 5 and below? Something tells me that their woes come from the inability to act on hypergamy. That, and bad genetics. Nature does as it pleases, to the detriment of some, to the benefit of others.
It is even funnier - I once made a pass at a HB5 (she was the only one in a crowd I went out with) and was rejected. The story use to be on the forum until the changes. People reacted with disbelieve. So HB5 and less can also be dilutional, and I'm not saying it because I think she should have fallen at my feet.

Well said. If I walk around my city for a few hours and count the women of child bearing age I don't want to bang, it's 90% size, 10% ugliness.

The problem is even 2s and 3 obese women have had drunken sex with 5 and 6 males and think that's what they deserve. 0-4 men aren't given any false hope.
Second that. Imagine what a 5 would think.

Isn't the best combination (and the most rare) the 7+ that grew up not standing out, or was a late bloomer, buy for some reason by 21 was solid in both looks and personality? I am recalling nearly all the middle school girls who were super cute being peakers, the equivalent to a guy who "peaks in high school." The problem is that from a man's point of view, most women are their "hottest' at age 16. It's just a conflicting thing since they are legally off limits, so of course you'll never hear this spoken, obviously since anything surrounding it at all is verboten.
True. If she bloomed late, she'll be less corrupted by attention. Once dated a "hottie" in the process of loosing her looks. Needless to say it didn't last long.
Also - disagree on 16 being hottest. I recon more toward 20.

Nowadays even below average or fat slampigs can take some good tinder photos and meetup with an average looking man. Many chubby whales have a huge attitude in 2020.
That actually happened to me. The name of it is SIT (Secret Internet Fatty). I, several times, came to a date where the image was a very distant resemblance of the photo on the profile.
 
I found this Quora topic to be fascinating. Women opened up about how a lack of physical beauty, or even just being average in looks, hindered their lives... As the old saying goes, "being beautiful is money in the bank and it opens doors!"

I can't get over how I recently learned that a Ms. Universe Pageant winner, Pia Wurtzbach was worth nearly two hundred million dollars, just five years after having won the pageant. That blows out of the water what most top pro athletes or actors make during a five year span of time.


What does it feel like to be an unattractive woman? I would imagine it feels like being the average man.
 

bucky

Ostrich
I'll add my observation:
Women deep down want to be "beautiful" (= have a lot of male attention and options). Tied up to the "princes" fantasies. Remember that Cinderela's only qualification for marrying the prince (apart from hard labor, which he didn't know about) was her "looks".

Most females are very insecure about it and unattractive girls develop a mechanism to deal with it(e.g. focusing on other traits, bashing the competition).


It is even funnier - I once made a pass at a HB5 (she was the only one in a crowd I went out with) and was rejected. The story use to be on the forum until the changes. People reacted with disbelieve. So HB5 and less can also be dilutional, and I'm not saying it because I think she should have fallen at my feet.


Second that. Imagine what a 5 would think.


True. If she bloomed late, she'll be less corrupted by attention. Once dated a "hottie" in the process of loosing her looks. Needless to say it didn't last long.
Also - disagree on 16 being hottest. I recon more toward 20.


That actually happened to me. The name of it is SIT (Secret Internet Fatty). I, several times, came to a date where the image was a very distant resemblance of the photo on the profile.

I used to call it the "10/20 rule" when I was single and trying Internet dating. That is, most often if a woman you meet online shows up for a date IRL, she'll look 10 years older and 20 pounds heavier than in her pictures.
 

TheMaleBrain

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I used to call it the "10/20 rule" when I was single and trying Internet dating. That is, most often if a woman you meet online shows up for a date IRL, she'll look 10 years older and 20 pounds heavier than in her pictures.
That's a good rule, I'll try to adopt it
 
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