This is not our call to make. Whether someone appears to be a practicing Christian or not. It is not ours to know whether repentance is realistically on the table for another person. The people you thought were hopeless might astonish you, and the ones you thought to be on the right track might sorely disappoint.
It's true that God won't violate their free will. If they choose Satan and sin over God and virtue, they will end up in hell. But, as they used to say, where there's still life, there's hope.
I was there for these specific family members till the end. They did not return to God and Christ and certainly did not repent before their passing. They even said that they did not believe in an afterlife. They were to prideful to believe in God, the Bible or Christ, thinking they were too intellectually superior to believe in that “nonsense” according to them it was only low intelligent people who believed in that. One of them said it to my face and said the other deceased family members to them directly as well. As for praying for them, their fate has already been decided, so I don’t know what to do, especially from what I know of their lack of Christ and God in their lives and sinful behaviors I am afraid they are not in a good place. I don’t like that but as I said before, they chose their fate in their own free will and decided their pride and other sins but especially pride was more important to them than God and Christ. Believe me it brings me great shame that my family members were like that. Not only the harm they did to me but also did to other people.
Fyi, when one of my family members died he did with his eyes open. When he was living his eye color was a medium blue with a touch of green. However, when he died with his eyes open they were a bright glassy GREEN color. His overall facial expression was one of fear. I find that let me just say very suspicious… He lived his life as a very sinful and evil person. Granted he had a traumatic childhood too as he was abused and neglected in a similar manner like I was. However he chose to be evil and was an overly prideful person, yet was a complete slob, he dressed in raggedy clothes and lived in filth. He saw Christ believers as intellectually inferior to him, though he was not a genius himself though he thought he was one. He worked jobs that paid just barely above minimum wage. He went as far as to claim his IQ was 180. He said this to me when he knew that I knew he was lying. He didn’t even go to a real college/university but to one of those institutes that accept everyone as long as they pay the high tuition fees. Smh. He also did very traumatically evil things to me (And to other people too.)
I suspect that many people intentionally choose hell (assuming they believe there may be an afterlife). They find heaven as “boring” and “uncool” and hell as “exciting man party on dude” to these types it seems hell is like a death metal concert. Fire blazing everywhere with their favourite death metal music blaring nonstop and they will be jamming their heads, making the devil horns with their hands and being in moshpits for the rest of eternity. It is not until the moment they die that they realize that hell is nothing like they would like it to be and it does not hit them until it is way too late. They think choosing satan and hell makes them “brave” and “fearless” but it is true when it is too late they realize that hell is terrible beyond what they can ever imagine.
Since my family is Christless, they have done nothing to help me find a husband. I suspect the idea of me getting married makes them jealous. Especially my father he has been jealous of every boyfriend I ever had since high school and always finds fault with them and comes up with “clever” and “creative” faults and even exaggerates so-called negative traits or makes them up out of thin air. Now I am single and figured out I will not tell him when I enter in a courtship. I want to disown him in a way. However, now he is helping me financially, only so he has control over me to a degree. It is purely for selfish reasons. He manipulated me to live in a country in Europe I don’t want to live in but he likes and visits multiple times a year. I am living in a two bedroom roomy apartment and when he visits he stays in the second bedroom. We have ancestry in this country. I have lived in this country before and a couple of years ago I decided I did not want to live in this country again. I wanted to move to Eastern Europe and my plan was to teach English there. My dad got furious and screamed at me till I was balling, taunting me like how was I going to get the money to move there. Then literally in my grandfather’s deathbed, which was a very vulnerable time, obviously. He manipulated me and begging me to move to the country he wanted me to move to, instead of Eastern Europe. He said if I moved to the country he wanted me to move to, he would help me out financially, and said he would NOT help me out if I went to Eastern Europe. Selfish, I know! Then I reluctantly went along with what he wanted. I had rapport with a tefl/English teaching school in EE and even paid a few hundred Euro down payment but my dad did not care. Then I moved to said country and things went wrong especially trying to work as an English teacher. It is the most competitive country in Europe for that. Then the covid lockdowns happened and everything closed. So this made me more dependent of my dad financially. He does not care about me being happy, he only cares about himself. In a perfect world he would be a good Christian man helping his daughter financially while helping her find a husband. As I said, he implied in many ways that he never wants me to get married and have a family of my own and to be happy. He is a prideful man though he commits every sin, especially slothfulness, greed and anger. I will even go as far as saying that it seems he may “pray” to the universe or “the creator” a la satan that I never find the love of my life and never get married because luck has not been on my side. If I do get married then it is over for him, he loses control over me, and another man, my would be husband gets it.
Like I stated earlier, I pray everyday that the living family members who have abused me will turn around and live a life in Christ and repent. So all we can do is wait and see… The thing is the demonic influence, selfishness and sin in them is so heavy, that they are too prideful, however God and Christ have the power to change that. They have had success without God’s help, so this is why to this day they see no reason to turn to God.
My wife separated from me, taking everything in the house, even the appliances, and my 3 year old and 18 month old daughters, thinking she could do better than me. I was so distraught over I took a drug overdose, but a friend found me in time.
My condolences for you. I felt so sad reading this I weeped a little. I feel you. The child molestar will certainly live in the torments of hell for eternity when he dies! And if your ex-wife doesn’t repent and turn to Christ her afterlife will not be good neither.
Yes and thanks for your prayers. I am currently looking for an English speaking priest in the area I live, as the one in my Parish doesn’t speak English. I need an English speaking priest so I can go more in depth.
There was a man in ancient times who was a terrible person, a bandit, who hurt many other people. One day, he saw a pregnant woman in the countryside, with no one else around. He wondered how the child grew inside the mother.
