Amen brother! This is what I would hope for myself. During praying time I get so much hope and clarity that I realise this is my vocation. On a deep level God is telling me to let go of the current girl I am courting, since I am keeping a frame of the goal for a healthy family with a present father and a present mother. The behavior she is showing now is that this is nowhere near hear dream or wish...When I was searching for a wife I was 27-30. (Before that I had an LTR who I though I would marry but at the end the relationship broke the standard beta guy/spoiled modern girl way.) Then in theory my target age was 17-23 (or even younger). I was not red pilled by that time yet but I always wanted to have many healthy children that's why I had this standard.
There were 2 girls who I met and I had the feeling that they could be an exception and I would accept older age (28 little less than my age at the time) but at last the relationship did not develop.
I could not really attract women younger than 23. There was one 19 year old who I dated. For some reason she failed her university admission test and maybe instinctively she tried to settle with a man and that could be why I was able to attract her.
My wife was 23 when I got to know her and we married when she was 25 and our first child was born when she was 26. Looking back I could have pushed more to be married earlier and have the first child earlier. But that is history now