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<blockquote data-quote="Days of Broken Arrows" data-source="post: 1238344" data-attributes="member: 4258">It's not obvious to all of us. Here's what I can bring to this discussion. When I was young, my standards were too high -- and misguided. I paid the price in the end.I've written about this extensively on here. Unfortunately, my posts are now all gone because they were in the &quot;family forum,&quot; which has been deleted.The perfect is the enemy of the good, as the saying goes. If you're young and find a woman who is 70-80 percent what you want, that's probably your best option in the long run.It's worth keeping in mind that the 30 percent you're not getting might come later. I passed up a whole bunch of small-town &quot;nice girls&quot; because in college they seemed un-sexy and provincial.&nbsp; It didn't occur to me they'd blossom later.When I saw them on Facebook, they all had become extremely sexy older women. The skinny girl who looks 13 when she's 19 turns into the 40-year-old who looks like she's still in her twenties. Time also makes the &quot;provincial&quot; seem quaint and cute and not a drawback.The girls who were &quot;hot&quot; and developed at 18-23 are now fat lards and never had good personalities to begin with. They might have seemed physically perfect at 18, but by 28 they were definitely imperfect, and by 40 were the kind of women you run from.(As an aside, I'll mention all those small-town girls got married and stayed married, while all the &quot;hotties&quot; have had lives of chaos and divorce. But you all probably guessed that.)I wish my old posts were still here because I wrote this better and in more detail previously.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Days of Broken Arrows, post: 1238344, member: 4258"] It's not obvious to all of us. Here's what I can bring to this discussion. When I was young, my standards were too high -- and misguided. I paid the price in the end. I've written about this extensively on here. Unfortunately, my posts are now all gone because they were in the "family forum," which has been deleted. The perfect is the enemy of the good, as the saying goes. If you're young and find a woman who is 70-80 percent what you want, that's probably your best option in the long run. It's worth keeping in mind that the 30 percent you're not getting might come later. I passed up a whole bunch of small-town "nice girls" because in college they seemed un-sexy and provincial. It didn't occur to me they'd blossom later. When I saw them on Facebook, they all had become extremely sexy older women. The skinny girl who looks 13 when she's 19 turns into the 40-year-old who looks like she's still in her twenties. Time also makes the "provincial" seem quaint and cute and not a drawback. The girls who were "hot" and developed at 18-23 are now fat lards and never had good personalities to begin with. They might have seemed physically perfect at 18, but by 28 they were definitely imperfect, and by 40 were the kind of women you run from. (As an aside, I'll mention all those small-town girls got married and stayed married, while all the "hotties" have had lives of chaos and divorce. But you all probably guessed that.) I wish my old posts were still here because I wrote this better and in more detail previously. [/QUOTE]

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