A few things became crystallized in my mind in the last 3 years. I've posted on them before but a quick recap:
1. Local environments are everything. Generally, if you want a wholesome LTR or marriage the USA is untenable, barring a lottery-esque win for guys like us (since we personality wise are so different). A great many of us also live in big cities which exacerbates this phenomenon.
2. If you have your shit together and understand that marriage and family are a major commitment and drag on you personally compared to currently being single (and it is virtuous, by the way, if undertaken properly) you will realize that your view on what you desire (out of the woman, relationship, etc) is typically way beyond what others think you should expect for yourself. This is very particular or contextual and we have to be honest about it, but it is the case. Most still have a go with the cultural flow mentality that generally speaking thinks you should be with women your age and the way I see it, that means "bail out" older women. Older women to me means 30+. The others that think they are all objective believe that if you desire a 20-something you are just an old sleazeball, instead of truly being someone who has investigated what marriage is, what biology is, timing, children, etc and are rationally acting on that reality. Not some silly pie in the sky, "But a 40 year old woman can have a kid" BS that sways the idiots among us.
3. Online was dead as of 2015, but now most of us know that it was mainly a hookup device anyway. From a purely enticing, exciting and hookup world view its heyday was the initial stages of mass smart phone adoption, 2010-2013 (when facebook linkups phased out). Overseas went the way of the dodo (from a wholesome point of view) at about this time as well. For example, 2000-2010 Colombia was a classic p-paradise. When it got noticeably easy to travel and social media was on the scene, that pretty much ruined the place by the first half of 2010s.
I guess I could go on, but as of 1-2 years ago, I realized that what I want, again short of winning the lottery in my home country, is not here (I'm American). What remains to be seen for me is if others are right about it rapidly diminishing elsewhere. Also, we shall see what the political and economic ramifications will be of the post-covid and world monetary issues are, moving ahead. Those could play either way: a boom for others taking advantage of overall less travel internationally and having a good amount going for them, or a further degradation of societies into transactional behaviors like grifting, sugar-ing to an unhealthy level (beyond resource desires for the normal women), greater danger/crime etc.