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<blockquote data-quote="questor70" data-source="post: 1130650" data-attributes="member: 12560">Sorry to focus on the secondary issue, but this is a really really important phrase.&nbsp; There is an inherent conflict of interest with therapists.&nbsp; If they &quot;fix&quot; you, they lose their cash-stream.What most people need is aggressive life coaching, not therapy.&nbsp; The product therapists are really selling is personal validation through casting yourself as a victim of past trauma.&nbsp; Since women desperately try to avoid personal responsibility, they are not going to pay for a therapist to criticize and issue a strict set of practical dos and don'ts.&nbsp; Instead what they do is just run over old mommy/daddy trauma again and again.I got into this messed up situation in my last relationship where she was going to therapy and the therapist was advising her not to go out with me anymore.&nbsp; That was fine with me because I had already tried to extrictate myself due to her neediness, but then she would keep reaching out and I would ask her &quot;what would your therapist say if she knew you were doing this?&quot; and her response was that her therapist didn't rule her life.&nbsp; And my response was that &quot;she should, otherwise what's the point?&quot;By shying away from applying moral judgment, finding reasons (aka excuses) for why women behave as they do, it merely enables them.&nbsp; Whatever guilt they had been quietly harboring is eased by talking it through with the therapists and being given these clinical rationalizations.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="questor70, post: 1130650, member: 12560"] Sorry to focus on the secondary issue, but this is a really really important phrase. There is an inherent conflict of interest with therapists. If they "fix" you, they lose their cash-stream. What most people need is aggressive life coaching, not therapy. The product therapists are really selling is personal validation through casting yourself as a victim of past trauma. Since women desperately try to avoid personal responsibility, they are not going to pay for a therapist to criticize and issue a strict set of practical dos and don'ts. Instead what they do is just run over old mommy/daddy trauma again and again. I got into this messed up situation in my last relationship where she was going to therapy and the therapist was advising her not to go out with me anymore. That was fine with me because I had already tried to extrictate myself due to her neediness, but then she would keep reaching out and I would ask her "what would your therapist say if she knew you were doing this?" and her response was that her therapist didn't rule her life. And my response was that "she should, otherwise what's the point?" By shying away from applying moral judgment, finding reasons (aka excuses) for why women behave as they do, it merely enables them. Whatever guilt they had been quietly harboring is eased by talking it through with the therapists and being given these clinical rationalizations. [/QUOTE]

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