Woman divorces husband after he pays for her law degree

FactusIRX

Kingfisher
My cousin did that. She married a nice, beta, short guy. He was a tradesman. He worked hard to pay for her law degree. When she got a job at a firm, she started banging the partner (also a beta, but tall). She divorced her husband (despite having a son together), and moved in with the partner. Now they have a "blended" family, she's a partner, and they are millionaires.
 

Cervantes

Woodpecker
My cousin did that. She married a nice, beta, short guy. He was a tradesman. He worked hard to pay for her law degree. When she got a job at a firm, she started banging the partner (also a beta, but tall). She divorced her husband (despite having a son together), and moved in with the partner. Now they have a "blended" family, she's a partner, and they are millionaires.
The cuck here is the partner. He married a disloyal slut who gave her best years to the tradesman, and is raising the tradesman's child.
 

Papist

Robin
The cuck here is the partner. He married a disloyal slut who gave her best years to the tradesman, and is raising the tradesman's child.

You wouldn't feel aggrieved if you were the tradesman, who paid for her degree? Presumably he also doesn't have custody of his son and will have to pay child support. If the partner's a lawyer I'd imagine he'd have a prenuptial agreement done, too.
 

Cervantes

Woodpecker
You wouldn't feel aggrieved if you were the tradesman, who paid for her degree? Presumably he also doesn't have custody of his son and will have to pay child support. If the partner's a lawyer I'd imagine he'd have a prenuptial agreement done, too.
The tradesman's situation is indeed unjust.

But what situation would I prefer my own son be in:

1. taken advantage of by a disloyal and materialistic woman, but at least now rid of her,
2. Newly married to such a woman and raising her child from a previous marriage to an objectively lower status ex

I would consider a son in the second situation more unfortunate, even if he doesn't know it yet.

I would think it a real tragedy for my son to marry a woman like this and not a feminine young virgin who wants only to be a mother. Its not like the lawyer partner even needs the money - he is literally cutting this slut into a business he built - so she's not actually bringing him all that much value. He's running a pretty high risk that she eventually takes half his law practice.

Child support is fundamentally unjust, applied unfairly and designed to destroy marriages. But on the scale of life's misfortunes it is not actually that bad. The child he has is worth more than any child support he might be paying - but I doubt that in this situation he would pay anything, even under today's anarcho-tyranny.
 
Unfortunately most western men nowadays have to learn the hard way.
We can only hope that it will serve him as a life lesson, will change his way of thinking and that he will choose next a homely wife and will teach his future sons to not do the same mistake.
 

Papist

Robin
The tradesman's situation is indeed unjust.

But what situation would I prefer my own son be in:

1. taken advantage of by a disloyal and materialistic woman, but at least now rid of her,
2. Newly married to such a woman and raising her child from a previous marriage to an objectively lower status ex

I would consider a son in the second situation more unfortunate, even if he doesn't know it yet.

I would think it a real tragedy for my son to marry a woman like this and not a feminine young virgin who wants only to be a mother. Its not like the lawyer partner even needs the money - he is literally cutting this slut into a business he built - so she's not actually bringing him all that much value. He's running a pretty high risk that she eventually takes half his law practice.

Child support is fundamentally unjust, applied unfairly and designed to destroy marriages. But on the scale of life's misfortunes it is not actually that bad. The child he has is worth more than any child support he might be paying - but I doubt that in this situation he would pay anything, even under today's anarcho-tyranny.

From the description provided I am unsure how you can discern that the tradesman is of 'lower status'. The lawyer might well earn more money, but he may well be a dishonest, morally reprehensible character; he might be short, bald and fat. The tradesman - possibly a carpenter, like our Saviour - might be a decent, charitable human being; he might speak four languages and be an accomplished amateur boxer; he might be 6' 2" and very handsome.

Personally, I would find it very frustrating to know that a morally corrupt man was raising my son and potentially inculcating in him a love of money, and potentially instilling in him ungodly principles.
 

Cervantes

Woodpecker
From the description provided I am unsure how you can discern that the tradesman is of 'lower status'. The lawyer might well earn more money, but he may well be a dishonest, morally reprehensible character; he might be short, bald and fat. The tradesman - possibly a carpenter, like our Saviour - might be a decent, charitable human being; he might speak four languages and be an accomplished amateur boxer; he might be 6' 2" and very handsome.

Personally, I would find it very frustrating to know that a morally corrupt man was raising my son and potentially inculcating in him a love of money, and potentially instilling in him ungodly principles.
In our society tradesmen are of lower social status than law firm partners. That doesn't mean "better".

When Jesus humbled himself to become man he chose to come among us as a carpenter, and not a king, specifically because he wanted to create an example of holiness that didn't require social status.
 

Papist

Robin
In our society tradesmen are of lower social status than law firm partners. That doesn't mean "better".

When Jesus humbled himself to become man he chose to come among us as a carpenter, and not a king, specifically because he wanted to create an example of holiness that didn't require social status.
Fair enough. Thanks for clarifying that.
 

Caractacus Potts

Woodpecker
Gold Member
I went through a very similar experience except rather than paying for law school I financed my ex-wife's business and carried the financial load after she was fired from her lucrative job. She was having an affair with her "business partner" whom she happened to meet at her job. She told me that she was fired because she was caught using corporate equipment for her side business. I spoke to someone in the know later and they told me that that was only part of the reason. The company projects a very family friendly image to consumers and it doesn't want people to know that a senior person was having an inappropriate relationship with a subordinate...in addition to misuse of corporate supplies/equipment. That was ten years ago. Now nobody would care.

I remember her telling me that "the girls (our daughters) deserve to see their mother happy." I laughed in her face and told her, no, the girls deserve to not have their world torn apart. Didn't phase her a bit.
 

stugatz

Pelican
Didn't Wendy Davis (abortion Barbie, remember her?) do this to her husband? I read this story and I could have sworn I heard it before...
 

Czee

Chicken
It isn't just Western women really.

I married a Moroccan here on Fulbright scholarship, which meant she had to go back for 2 yrs.
A Muslim, supposedly. Westernization does wonder at corrupting.
After vetting her for 3 yrs we got married before she returned. I waited for her 2yrs while applying for her green card.
Paid all her bills, took us on vacations, gifts, wedding, etc. Costing around $200k over the course of 5yrs.

She banged some guy at work overseas back in 2019. Hid it for over year- as soon as she got her green card she disappeared with all her stuff. Shortly after I realized where the chlamydia she passed onto me back in 2019 originated from. Upon calling her about it, she sent a SWAT team to my door, made me go to a psych ward exposing me to Covid, along with thousands in medical bills. I lost my gun license and all my firearms, got a restraining order the next day. Later the judge threw her case out cause it was completely baseless bs. It's a good thing I had a prenup otherwise I'd still be paying this worthless lying whore. She even had the gulls to ask for dental braces before she snuck up on me with the divorce- just so I can pay to adjust her teeth so she can go suck someone else off with it.

That's just how it is, hypergamy. When a woman thinks she can get better, she first extracts all she can outta her last man and then she moves onto the next. If you're not her best you might as well be invisible. Heck, it's a lot better to just be invisible.
 

LeoniusD

Pelican
My cousin did that. She married a nice, beta, short guy. He was a tradesman. He worked hard to pay for her law degree. When she got a job at a firm, she started banging the partner (also a beta, but tall). She divorced her husband (despite having a son together), and moved in with the partner. Now they have a "blended" family, she's a partner, and they are millionaires.
Actually that is story fully explained in the manosphere and by men like rollo tomasi. The beta guy in a law firm or a partner is in his domain, he is the king in his very own castle and women look up to him. Just as a young doctor is the king of his mini-castle in a hospital and can have more hand among the young nurses than he would ever have if he approached them in the club or in even church.

There are men I know who don't allow their wives to work or do so under special conditions. One guy when asked said that he knows that she would get a lot of attention in an office if he started working there as an assistant. He is more of an alpha guy in spirit, but not in terms of looks or anything else.

Such stories are frankly legion and I am not even sure whether strong faith can help since this female attraction and hypergame into the next best alpha or much better provider is endemic in them. Consider this - in the past in the 1950s women used to work in offices too, but it was understood that as soon as she would get married, she would quit her job as she would be a wife and mother now. Even if children were not coming right away, she was expected to stop working. That was a model so much more logical as the unwed woman might find a husband in the office, but the married woman should better not tempt the men there. Especially young women are always on the lookout and having them at home or in church was way more harmonious to family life. It's akin to a man who works in a porn production set or in Hollywood and countless girls throw themselves at him. That is the equivalent of a young attractive woman working in an office.

I also knew of one such case - a buddy of mine. He met her as he was 27 and she 19. They married and he worked various menial jobs. She studied mathematics and then did an MBA. Guess how long the marriage lasted after her MBA and her starting to work at a corporation? Roughly a year it did. He said that he cheated on her and she found out. I said that this certainly did not help, but if he was working at some other corporation then she would have forgiven him. She married a successful manager 1.5 years later and it's likely that she cheated on him as well. His cheating was just an excuse to lay the blame on him.
 
Actually that is story fully explained in the manosphere and by men like rollo tomasi. The beta guy in a law firm or a partner is in his domain, he is the king in his very own castle and women look up to him. Just as a young doctor is the king of his mini-castle in a hospital and can have more hand among the young nurses than he would ever have if he approached them in the club or in even church.

There are men I know who don't allow their wives to work or do so under special conditions. One guy when asked said that he knows that she would get a lot of attention in an office if he started working there as an assistant. He is more of an alpha guy in spirit, but not in terms of looks or anything else.

Such stories are frankly legion and I am not even sure whether strong faith can help since this female attraction and hypergame into the next best alpha or much better provider is endemic in them. Consider this - in the past in the 1950s women used to work in offices too, but it was understood that as soon as she would get married, she would quit her job as she would be a wife and mother now. Even if children were not coming right away, she was expected to stop working. That was a model so much more logical as the unwed woman might find a husband in the office, but the married woman should better not tempt the men there. Especially young women are always on the lookout and having them at home or in church was way more harmonious to family life. It's akin to a man who works in a porn production set or in Hollywood and countless girls throw themselves at him. That is the equivalent of a young attractive woman working in an office.

I also knew of one such case - a buddy of mine. He met her as he was 27 and she 19. They married and he worked various menial jobs. She studied mathematics and then did an MBA. Guess how long the marriage lasted after her MBA and her starting to work at a corporation? Roughly a year it did. He said that he cheated on her and she found out. I said that this certainly did not help, but if he was working at some other corporation then she would have forgiven him. She married a successful manager 1.5 years later and it's likely that she cheated on him as well. His cheating was just an excuse to lay the blame on him.
Based and Red Pilled analysis.
 

00anon00

Chicken
In all fairness, sociopaths are overrepresented in the legal field in general. According to a friend in law, lawyers are basically the biggest scammers in the entire economy - the work is not systematized by the hour, as it is supposedly structured -- the average lawyers just takes you for whatever they think they can get, and make the hours fit that amount. Not to mention the fact that you pay the same $300 an hour to a 110 IQ lawyer who doesn't know what they are doing, and to a 140 IQ lawyer who does. In many cases, the 110 IQ rainmaker lawyer is paying a 140 IQ lawyer $30 to do the work for the cases they are bringing in. If you are filing a lawsuit, make sure to do all the legal research yourself, and hand over your findings to your lawyer. If you don't do it, it might be that nobody will.

Though I wouldn't be surprised if sociopaths are even more overrepresented among women than men, especially since there is a definite contingent of aspie male lawyers for whom the law is their "special interest".

I think I've known four female lawyers: one was a total borderline nutcase (and I have no idea how she ever passed the bar - she knew literally nothing about law; her husband was also an attorney, as well as normal and smart); she destroyed her clients' cases and was even disbarred from practicing several types of law; another one I know is super annoying and has something of an inferiority complex, leading her to sabotage her husband's better career by limiting his opportunities by limiting the geography of where they would live to a city where his industry didn't have a strong presence... only to decide she doesn't want the high-falutin' law career after a few years of grinding (terrible personality but not the divorcing type; I really feel for her poor husband, he's the nicest guy); Another one was a bit dim, but very nice (also probably not the divorcing type). I know another one who wouldn't divorce, as well (went into it because of family, though).

It's good to have a lawyer you can trust around, but yeah, in general, my lawyer friend advises to watch out for lawyers.
 
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Eusebius Erasmus

Kingfisher
That’s when you wish her well and move out of the apartment while she’s out with her friends.
If you're living together before marriage, then you're already a beta. This is also goes against Christianity.

Such stories are frankly legion and I am not even sure whether strong faith can help since this female attraction and hypergame into the next best alpha or much better provider is endemic in them.
If you doubt the power of faith, then you doubt the power of Christ. The rest of your analysis is sound, but this sentence is ludicrous.
 
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