That's brutal. The stuff of nightmares.I read the topic title and thought it was me.
Met my now ex-wife in university. She was from a small town and raised conservative. We got along great for years. During university she became a liberal but so did I. Overall, it didn't seem to matter to much but I did notice her respect/devotion for me seemed to decline. I just thought it was her maturing and becoming more independent.
We get married.
She decides she wants to go back to school for law but goes to a different country because she couldn't get in here (I'm in Canada). She takes out student loans but it's not enough so I pay for the rest. In total including living expenses I think it worked out to like $100k CAD not to mention the fact I was covering the mortgage and all other expenses.
During law school she meets a feminist. I didn't know what feminism really was or cared or understood how this was going to impact me. My ex-wife turned into a toxic feminist. She refused to give me blowjobs because it was demeaning against women but she wanted me to lick her pussy. Relationship takes a nose dive because she starts treating me like garbage. I do my best to try and convince her to be nicer to me. She cheats on me. I still try to mend the relationship (huge mistake) but by then it was already too late. Eventually she just went out and bought a $50k car after I told her we couldn't afford it so I told her I was done and that was the end of that.
I ended up having to pay her $30k to get out of the marriage despite having put her through law school.
How old were you and her when things ended?
Is she with the person she cheated on you with?
Did she remarry?
Do you still keep in contact with her?