Woman in her 30's comes to a harsh realization that it may be too late for love

kel

Pelican
There's a huge glut of this coming. Millennials (like me) are still holding on to this idea of themselves as being "young" even though the average millennial is now like 32. Give it a few more years, as the midpoint gets closer and closer to 40, and that cope is going to be harder and harder to maintain. Lots of millennial women are going to end up saddled with whatever beta loser they can lock down for a while, resent, occassionally cheat on when out at the bar with the girls and some zoomer deigns to say "yeah, I could practice on that one", and probably leave and start the cycle anew a few times.
 

mubs100

Sparrow
She needs to go for men in 40-55 range not 34-37 lol, she looks old, no offense to her, but that is her major fault imo. Get that 50yr old divorcee, though im not sure what amount of decent 45-55yr old single men are out there without issues.

But I reckon she feels 'awkward' with an older guy (what would her friends think) due to modern culture.

Women going to for men the same age as them, even in their early twenties is bad for both men and women. Women in their twenties need more mature men and men need to be under less pressure to deliver the relationship 'goods' when in their twenties.
 
There's a huge glut of this coming. Millennials (like me) are still holding on to this idea of themselves as being "young" even though the average millennial is now like 32. Give it a few more years, as the midpoint gets closer and closer to 40, and that cope is going to be harder and harder to maintain. Lots of millennial women are going to end up saddled with whatever beta loser they can lock down for a while, resent, occassionally cheat on when out at the bar with the girls and some zoomer deigns to say "yeah, I could practice on that one", and probably leave and start the cycle anew a few times.
I'm Gen-X and went to a HS reunion about 20 years after and it was refreshing and life reaffirming that most had gotten their lives together or at least had insights into what wasn't working for them OR they simply didn't come to the reunion. Most of the folks by then, including myself, had gotten married and had kids or divorced and were dealing with that.

I think this young woman comedian really does a good job of explaining it:

So there's a choice people face as they age and various beliefs don't age well with them:

1) Re-evaluate what they believe in, grow, discard, etc.
2) Accept that life is over and throw yourself into a lake because you can't change.

When I was young, I actually found the concept of transformation, itself, to be life affirming as in it driven by me. I reach a point, realize what I'm doing isn't working, and then decide to at least recognize this and work on it. There's this feminist joke that goes "unlike saving bonds, men don't mature" and such. In a way, this is true in that growth and survival in the world outside of the patriarchal protected home is one of continual forced personal growth. It's painful, but necessary to accept that the world, as we know it, is in continual flux as our understanding of it matures.

So what I'm thinking as I watch videos such as this where the women say they're doomed to loneliness, it's that they were told when they were in their teens that they were done growing up. "That" is who they are. Even Lily Tomlinson says that she sees the 20's as a time of maturation but my guess is that most American women think they're all grown up by their teens.

It's also something I notice in politics: The most messed up guys with crazy ideals got indoctrinated with them about the age that my father back in the 1950's picked up smoking and much like smoking, they committed to the habit.

If you can stomach it, here's a woman who did appear to learn. Sort of. She got the dream of a girl like her, but she at least put an effort in.
 

Laner

Hummingbird
Gold Member
I had a pretty brutal conversation with a good friend of my wife, who is 38, this past Friday.

To put it bluntly, I said that if she wants to be mother, she will have to settle for being a mother to another woman's children. That she should find a nice, stable divorcee in the 50yo age bracket and just enjoy being the younger wife. A bonus if he has kids under 5. Not so much if he has kids in their teens.

She took it well, and even mentioned that another friend of theirs who is very wealthy, payed a headhunter to match her. If you know my back story, you would fucking laugh. But the headhunter actually matched her with a divorced man with kids and she freaked out. The headhunter just told her that she needed to manage expectations, and none of her single male clients were interested. It was a red pill nuke for her, and her circle of friends.

Of course, most told her it was the dating agencies fault, that she was a catch, and that the men were the problem.
 
I have four stepdaughters and things are rough between us. But as bad as they are, I can only imagine if they had a stepmother! Lol The biological maternal role is sacred to a girl, and when another woman comes in to take that place, unless it is done at a very young age, there will be hell to pay! I can understand why women hate the idea of being a stepmother, especially to older children (past age five).
 
The brutal reality. That better bachelor guy was always a sharpy ... I remember someone posted that video with the blond girl a while back with commentary.
Better Bachelor is my favorite red pill/mgtow presenter. I also really enjoy Sandman, for his perceptiveness and humor. Coach Red Pill, Coach Greg Adams and Richard Cooper are also excellent. There are quite a few very good red pill channels out there.
 

Zeknichov

Pigeon
There's a huge glut of this coming. Millennials (like me) are still holding on to this idea of themselves as being "young" even though the average millennial is now like 32. Give it a few more years, as the midpoint gets closer and closer to 40, and that cope is going to be harder and harder to maintain. Lots of millennial women are going to end up saddled with whatever beta loser they can lock down for a while, resent, occassionally cheat on when out at the bar with the girls and some zoomer deigns to say "yeah, I could practice on that one", and probably leave and start the cycle anew a few times.
I was dating a woman who was 32yo. She said she wanted kids and to start a family. In terms of her beauty and what she wanted from a relationship we were 100% compatible. The problem is that she literally told me that we were only allowed to have sex at most 3 times a week and she preferred 1-time even. She said she doesn't enjoy sex and can do without it. She said if I wanted to have sex with her more often a good way to accomplish this would be to buy her expensive gifts. She told me she's tired of guys lying to her, cheating on her and just using her for sex. How delusional are these women? Why would any guy agree to this sort of relationship? Who does she think she is? She's going to hit 40 alone and still confused as to why that is.
 
Many of these women were used, gave themselves a lot and did not receive a ring (I already lived with two, I did not get married). If a woman tells me she is a virgin, she will continue because I will not insist.
Marrying a virgin is not ideal for me, I think it is important to test a little intimacy and sexual chemistry.

I have relationships with many young women, in my 20s and 30s (I am 35) I never proposed any of them, nor do I intend to do so early.
A LOT of talk about hypergamy and vagrancy, I think women always want to settle down before men, but I live in the third world, I don't know how and in Anglo.
Much of the crisis in marriages comes from pornography, which generates an insatiable thirst in men of sex and more sex.
I know many sluts who are worthless, but most women I know always seek a solid love and relationship. Man who used to be more of a son of a bitch, always.
 

Papaya

Crow
Gold Member
Best quote on YT

When men get older, they begin to look like Sean Connery. When women get older, they begin to look like Sean Connery.


But its sad really.

These women are fed carefree"YOLO" warm fuzzies. And while the YOLO is true they dont really realize the stakes and the consequences until its too late.

Reality is a the hard cold wolf stuffed inside the warm fuzzy sheep suit
 

animum-rege

Sparrow
I am personally struggling with this myself.

I'd like to get married and have kids. It's important to me. I hold out hope that I will meet the right woman. But the pickings are slim. I always assumed I'd be on that path, but as the years slide by, it seems less likely.

Even more unsettling is that in my last two serious relationships, both of the girls had deep-rooted issues that only came out a few months in. Which is frightening. I wonder how much of this is our contemporary mental health decline, and how much is just the normal female craziness that was easier to overlook back when life was a daily challenge.

Dating, even before COVID, was disheartening. I did meet some great girls where the chemistry just wasn't there. But a lot of women today really don't have their stuff together, and it's painful to imagine what life would be like chained to them.

Roosh had a nice article up about recognizing that God will either put a worthwhile mate in your life or won't. I can get my head around this conceptually. Accepting it deeply is harder.
 
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