You are not chained to a woman, they are 'chained' to you.I am personally struggling with this myself.
I'd like to get married and have kids. It's important to me. I hold out hope that I will meet the right woman. But the pickings are slim. I always assumed I'd be on that path, but as the years slide by, it seems less likely.
Even more unsettling is that in my last two serious relationships, both of the girls had deep-rooted issues that only came out a few months in. Which is frightening. I wonder how much of this is our contemporary mental health decline, and how much is just the normal female craziness that was easier to overlook back when life was a daily challenge.
Dating, even before COVID, was disheartening. I did meet some great girls where the chemistry just wasn't there. But a lot of women today really don't have their stuff together, and it's painful to imagine what life would be like chained to them.
Roosh had a nice article up about recognizing that God will either put a worthwhile mate in your life or won't. I can get my head around this conceptually. Accepting it deeply is harder.
You should be able to make their lives so much better, just by being you, that they would not want to leave. Ever.
I aim to make those around me better. I strive to make myself better, and let that accountability to be known. Battling vulnerability has been a life long challenge for me. But it was worth the effort. The results were that I made every woman I was with better.
They became more feminine.
They became happier.
Their stress melted away.
Women require work. Just like everything in life worth the effort.