Yes, there is only so much we can understand completely. As a Christian, the longer I live the more I can see how God was working but at the time, no way, there were too many unfinished things. I mean, I can honestly look back well over 30 years and remember how dark things were but many, many years later, I can see (as far as I know) how God fit the pieces of the puzzle together. It became clear decades later. You wish you hadn't worried so much back then, when you see much later how God was working it out.I tend to agree with this and knowing what I know. I have always been fit and athletic though, so testosterone hasn't gone away and likely won't for a while. I hope to be a bit of a realist, enlightener or encourager for some of the younger guys on here, being that I'm in my 5th decade of life (yes that means 40+). The sex thing is a struggle because it is very much an abused thing, and a source of life, very much restricted by religions appropriately --- but what happens when there is no outlet in your generation for the testosterone? Everyone becomes a monk? It makes me chuckle a bit, I'm not making excuses, thought, trust me.
One of the problems that arises is that, especially in this day and age (understanding what we do about the generation and no end in sight), you second guess decisions about anyone you did date that could have been a solid partner. And there are often many reasons why it may have been hard to pull the trigger. The problem with so many of the questions (desire, provisions, ease, difficulty) about God and what we do is that we can so easily backfit all the things we did or didn't do. Sometimes it makes me think that with many things in life we really have no idea how they happen, or not - or the real reason why.
All I know is God's command (yes, let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own husband is as forceful as a command) must be taken seriously. It is not good for man to be alone, needs to be taken seriously. It took me until 53 to find a wife. How many times I swore myself to sleep and that was during prayer! God understood. He wasn't going to open that door for a long time but I had to persist in praying, watching for an opportunity, then seizing it! Too many people go MGTOW these days. I can understand someone who has suffered through multiple divorces but not young men. They can still make something of themselves.