Is her mentality typical of younger single women?
Yes and no. She's looking for a provider and also a romance partner; i.e. she wants the whole package or whatever. Is the list typical, yeah for delusional women who probably were relatively attractive ten yeas ago, went through the dating scene, and are now still locked into her old mindset. Basically she's acting like she's still young and has a ton of value and also is demanding the provider 'alpha' guy or what have you.
I mean for her age bracket, and her attractiveness etc, yeah that's pretty average. I would say the 'list' is more of her just rationalizing to herself more than anything else. It's not reality at all because attraction is less of a list and more of a physical response, with the list coming in later which if she's physically attracted to the guy she'll disregard most of that list.
Younger girls don't really have a 'list' per say. Younger girls who are displaying themselves online etc. are way beyond some 'list'. The attractive ones know they can get basically any guy ok, so what does she do? She sells out, as in whores out, sadly. Not all of them are like this, but it's kind of a mixed bag. Some are super shy and though attractive and can get guys have a 'fantasy' life they want projected and made. But do young girls make absurd lists? If she's attractive I would say not really, because the 'fantasy' guy isn't really a priority until they want to settle down.
Their absurd list revolves more around copying every other girl and being the 'perfect' copycat 'supermodel'. In other words young girls don't really care about the guy, he's basically just a prop to her, sad to say. Again, this isn't always true, but you see it enough times and it's unfortunately the case. When she's not looking for a relationship the traits of the man are irrelevant as long as he plays along with her mindless 'game' for whatever it is she's after, which is basically sex or money if she's cracked out of her mind. The same could be said for a lot of younger guys, the difference though is young attractive girls are having hundreds and hundreds (literally, no exaggeration, even average looking cute girls are in incredibly high demand, I'm surprised the bubble hasn't burst yet honestly) of men throwing themselves at anything and everything online and the young guys don't have that happening to them, not at all, not in the slightest. So, you have young generation of men resenting their counterparts, and girls who have the field day of a lifetime and can choose basically a large variety of men if they want, but they don't because women don't choose typically.
They like to think they 'choose' the man, but the fact of the matter is, as online dating shows, women become insanely complacent when given their pick of any man available, they don't do it, especially when all of the men are already providing her emotional feedback she's been wanting. Subconsciously she traps herself. The young group of women who in the past were more shy and had to idealize their male 'fantasy' man from far away, is now allowed to be 'proactive' online and get massive attention and not have to commit to any man at all. She thinks she's being 'proactive' ok, but to her being 'proactive' in online dating is just replying to a message here or there, she doesn't make plans, she doesn't 'try', why? Because she doesn't need to, there's literally no incentive other than sex or money for her. Young girls, unless raised properly, want 'fun' and 'excitement' and she's getting plenty of that, well, some are. Long story short every possible fantasy 'list' she could ever have conceived of or thought about is at her fingertips. It's this ladies list x10,000 ok. If she's actually young and attractive basically any guy will sadly placate to her. It's kind of true, but also a half truth. Their heads are so gased up by the hundreds of messages they all think they can get literally any guy. This isn't always true ok, but for certain girls it definitely is. Some are so shy that they can't handle it I've noticed, even though they get tons of spam they just don't like it, so it's not all of them, but just realize the 'list' is essentially in her mind she thinks she can get any man she wants.
So to answer your question any 'list' she has in her head is provided by her 'harem' of male followers flooding her messages. She gets a 'taste' of literally every type of guy, without the procreation involved. In other words she doesn't have to have kids with any of these guys but she basically is living out fantasy lives with all of them. Biologically going on a real date is 'dangerous' for a woman, in the past it's not normal and a girl knows if she gets pregnant from a random dude he could leave her and she's stuck with the kid, the threat of bein abandoned is hardwired into most girls. She's getting EVERY fantasy list fulfilled for her online. When you're getting flooded hundreds of messages from people as a girl that emotional fix satisfies any 'fantasy' list you think you need. The few women who are serious about dating are the older one's, like the one in this video.
But for her the list is basically just a rationalization she's making to justify why she's single. Younger girls might have a 'list' of some kind that they really want, but they are socially uncalibrated, they don't 'act' on messages and replies, because they don't need too, they get a taste of every man coming through their inbox and feeding them attention. It's pretty sad hate to say. I've known women who have been on dating sites for literally years and years and years. Who knows how many dates, who knows how much this or that, but what is she looking for? The 'perfect' guy right? Yes and no. She might have a fantasy of some perfect guy, but she's already getting all the attention she needs. Women don't act on attention as a motivator generally. Whereas if a man is getting dozens and dozens of messages from cute girls he's going to want to meet almost all of them, but a girl gets the emotional 'fix' and attention which is as satisfactory to her as it is for a man to go on a date. It's a complicated problem, but lets just say the internet exaggerates the problems in both genders dramatically.
It's interesting you say 'younger single women' - girls don't need the 'psychical' bond all of the time ok, they can be very satisfied just getting emotional feedback and positive affirmation and or emotional support of some kind. You say 'single', but the sad truth is while they are technically 'single' in name; i.e. they would tell you they aren't dating', but they'll have 78 messages in their inbox, and 13 guys on their list of potential boyfriends, and 3 guys who are 'friends' of hers and 1 guy who is her current 'potential boyfriend' - ok so it's a disturbing trend and I wish I was exaggerating but I'm not. Well, maybe I am, but were talkin' basically the 'average' cute girl here is getting a ton of messages from guys, is it '78'...no, maybe double or just half that if I'm being realistic. It depends on what site she's using. It depends on a lot of things ok, but yeah the point is she might say she's 'single', but her mental mailbox is definitely taken.
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