Women with kids and dating

[lunchmoney]

I overheard this week a man explaining to a woman the difference between a single mother and a "baby mama" which was interesting.

Single mother = woman who was previously married, now divorced, raising school aged children alone.

Baby mama = woman never married who brought life into the world single.

Would you date either?

 

[TheMaleBrain]

The answer is: "It Depends".
What is your goal in dating?

If it is to marry for the first time and raise a family - then NO.
If it is to casually date and have fun - I don't see why not.

 

[Douglas Quaid]

I could see it if you're a single dad with kids, but men without kids dating single moms are insane in my opinion.

 

[Zagor]

No single mothers. Never. First rule in the book.

 

[EndlessGravity]

I overheard this week a man explaining to a woman the difference between a single mother and a "baby mama" which was interesting.

Single mother = woman who was previously married, now divorced, raising school aged children alone.

Baby mama = woman never married who brought life into the world single.

Would you date either?

I wouldn't because I have a strict "only virgins" rule. I wouldn't want to marry a woman otherwise.

 

[Red Wings]

absolutely not

 

[magaman]

I overheard this week a man explaining to a woman the difference between a single mother and a "baby mama" which was interesting.

Single mother = woman who was previously married, now divorced, raising school aged children alone.

Baby mama = woman never married who brought life into the world single.

Would you date either?

What about an older divorced woman whose kids are already adults? I would

 

[Invocato]

If you're never married, with no kids, and serious about getting married and having a family, then absolutely no single mothers, or any divorced woman (childless or not).

 

[Red Wings]

What about an older divorced woman whose kids are already adults? I would

Why would you even want to do that? Do you really think you have that much of a lack of options?

 

[magaman]

Why would you even want to do that? Do you really think you have that much of a lack of options?

Because I want to. She's a nice lady, very kind. Although she is only one option and others can be exercised if this one does not work out.

 

[Invocato]

Because I want to. She's a nice lady, very kind. Although she is only one option and others can be exercised if this one does not work out.

It's not even about lack of options, it's just a bad idea. Women can be clever in ways that men don't understand, and they will rarely tell you about their past transgressions, or accept responsibility for them. This wisdom is confirmed in Proverbs.

 

[magaman]

It's not even about lack of options, it's just a bad idea. Women can be clever in ways that men don't understand, and they will rarely tell you about their past transgressions, or accept responsibility for them. This wisdom is confirmed in Proverbs.

I know there's things she wouldn't want to tell me, same me to her. Believe me, I know there's an angle as to why she would all of a sudden start talking to me. The previous one keeping her attention must not have worked out, for starters. With the situation though, it's not likely to work out and we both sort of recognize that reality because we have talked about it already. If it does then that'd be wonderful and you know I hope for that but we gotta be real. She doesn't live in the USA and will only start living here in (maybe) 13 months. One could argue why bother or devote thought and they'd be right to. Time will tell and as we know, anything could happen. We are talking but not in a relationship. We do like each other.

 

[Christopher J]

No.

Back when I was promiscuous I "dated" single moms, sometimes even preferred them as they have characteristics like neediness that make them more wild sexually. But now that I'm Christian, I don't even see any reason to casually date. If I'm not looking to marry, don't even dip my feet in. And as I won't marry a single mom or even a divorcee (my ex fiancee was but I won't do again), I should just be single until God sets me up with the right woman.

 

[Joe316]

I overheard this week a man explaining to a woman the difference between a single mother and a "baby mama" which was interesting.
Single mother = woman who was previously married, now divorced, raising school aged children alone.
Baby mama = woman never married who brought life into the world single.
Would you date either?

As masculine men we only entertain acquaintances and friendships with families, preferably functional ones: husband, wife and maybe children. We're not "dating" them, because that would be adulterous and creepy. Doesn't matter if the woman got rid of the father of her children - doesn't change a bit about the situation.

If we ever get involved "romantically" with a family, we stick to the leaves of the tree: fully grown up daughters of strong fathers, mothers are none of our business.

 

[Broonkley]

No. I would only date / marry virgin women, but now, if I am going to have romantic nights and have fun and spend nothing more than that, I would accept it.

 

[kel]

Outside of a widow situation, single moms are really only good for the, um, convenience they offer of an isolated hook.p happy meal kind of situation if you keep them at arms length and are still doing that in life. But dating, like going for a relationship? Absolutely not.

 

[Seeker79]

Outside of a widow situation, single moms are really only good for the, um, convenience they offer of an isolated hook.p happy meal kind of situation if you keep them at arms length and are still doing that in life. But dating, like going for a relationship? Absolutely not.

So, would you date a widow with a child? Experienced something like this recently. She told me her husband passed away in an accident 3 years ago. She is raising her 7 yo boy herself.

 

[kel]

If you want honesty, probably not. It's unfortunate and perhaps unfair to her, but that's a lot to step in to.

But, a widow does not bear the moral stigma of "single mother", different circumstances entirely even if the practical daily challenges each face are similar.

 

[HHkar]

Definitely avoid, if you can. Those types of women, just complicate your life. You bear so much responsibility with no authority. Lose, lose situation. As for divorced women (w/ no kids), I'd consider dating; however, won't commit. As you age, people just have more baggage period!

 

[Zagor]

Well I've made this thread 'ex is getting married' and one of the reasons why that fact hit me so hard I now realize is because I know she truly loved me. That cannot be faked, you just know it. And even now as she's getting married, she confessed to me that I was someone special to her and that she'll always love me, and that she loves her fiancee as well, but in a different way. And folks, you don't want to be loved in a different way. And that is what you'll most likely get with these spent women, a feeble spark instead of a searing blaze.