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<blockquote data-quote="MartyMcFly" data-source="post: 1489488" data-attributes="member: 22678">Single mothers are riskier but it depends on many factors and there are obvious disadvantages and challenges. Things to consider: 1) If her husband died and she is a widow and it was a good marriage-she could be a stable and good woman but she may compare you to her dead husband at times and it might mean a slightly weaker emotional bond. 2) Her kid will likely come first. This is not always bad because a good mother will care about her child. The key is that she also puts in effort to be a good wife as well. She will also expect you to be a good father which is also not necessarily bad and depends on the man. 3) How old is the kid and how well can he/she accept a stepparent? This is mixed. Some stepfathers have great relationships with the step-kids and some have poor relationships. 4) The ex-husband: If he is alive and not serving a long prison sentence, he might want to see the kid and this leads to awkward meetings. Some ex-husbands might also try to get the ex-wife back and sometimes they succeed. Making this list makes me realize dating a single mother is worse than I thought...haha. However, if she is truly a good woman and you date her for awhile and watch out for any red flags, she could be a good match. Baby mamas-nope-the risk of drama is too high.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="MartyMcFly, post: 1489488, member: 22678"] Single mothers are riskier but it depends on many factors and there are obvious disadvantages and challenges. Things to consider: 1) If her husband died and she is a widow and it was a good marriage-she could be a stable and good woman but she may compare you to her dead husband at times and it might mean a slightly weaker emotional bond. 2) Her kid will likely come first. This is not always bad because a good mother will care about her child. The key is that she also puts in effort to be a good wife as well. She will also expect you to be a good father which is also not necessarily bad and depends on the man. 3) How old is the kid and how well can he/she accept a stepparent? This is mixed. Some stepfathers have great relationships with the step-kids and some have poor relationships. 4) The ex-husband: If he is alive and not serving a long prison sentence, he might want to see the kid and this leads to awkward meetings. Some ex-husbands might also try to get the ex-wife back and sometimes they succeed. Making this list makes me realize dating a single mother is worse than I thought...haha. However, if she is truly a good woman and you date her for awhile and watch out for any red flags, she could be a good match. Baby mamas-nope-the risk of drama is too high. [/QUOTE]

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