Women's Entitled Attitudes - Boyfriends Should Pay Living Expenses

[HonantheBarbarian]

I think its also important to mention that if she's the type to put a personal issue of this magnitude on YELP, then as a female she has several other unseen issues that make her inherently defective.

Just the fact this bish is airing her dirty laundry this openly is a big red flag. One can only hope homeboy jumped ship by now.

 

[Dr. Howard]

I hate this bitch's entitled attitude, but I'm gonna have to play devil's advocate on this one;

-House is paid off, meaning he owns it
-Talk of marriage and kids
-supposedly serious relationship

Although we may not be getting the full scoop, Its hard not to view the dude as a piece of shit given the evidence presented.

I mean its not like he has a mortgage to pay off, or he's short on cash. If he was still making payments on the home it would be a completely reasonable expectation, but his shit is already payed off. If he was doing it to control the frame more power to him, but that doesn't appear to be the case. He just sounds like a cheap beta from here.

PS: If it were me I'd make her buy all the groceries and pay for cable and/or netflix. That sounds about right. Going completely dutch on a payed off house is a bit jewish.

I agree that this guy is likely not struggling to pay his bills, but just because he is it doesn't mean he's any more or less of an asshole for not providing a net for this woman to land in. Its the same mentality that makes people thing "oh rich people should pay more taxes because they can afford to" or "Oh we should use tax money to rebuild people's homes that built on floodplains or coastal hurricane zones"

Fuck that, it is this guy's money and this bitch should be grateful that he is offering her an opportunity. She's not married to the guy and she is expecting that she should benefit from his income somehow. Note I wrote INCOME not kindness. If you are in a relationship you should probably expect kindness, and compassion not $$$. It drives me crazy when people think they are entitled to charity....especially when those often deserving of charity are too proud to ask for it.

Literally, as her boyfriend, all this guy should have to do, to not be considered a 'dick' is say 'I'm sorry to hear that you lost your job, that really sucks and I feel bad for you. I'll understand if you have to cut back on going out for drinks and dinner on our dates to save money" Thats it, its not his job to save her, even if he swims in a money pit like Scrooge McDuck. She's not his wife, doesn't matter.

 

[HonantheBarbarian]

That's a fair point.

Perhaps he could have worded it differently, but still gotten her to chip in adequately.

"You can pay me a monthly rent on my payed off house"

Vs

"You can buy the grocories and get the cable, don't worry about rent"

They both accomplish the same thing while one doesn't make you look like a cheap azz or like beta bux.

 

[Dr. Howard]

Update:

Looks like Tom Leykis did a show on this and her boyfriend posted in the comments. They are no longer together...sweet move. So that means this girl is maybe still looking for a free apartment, calling hotweels?

and of course...how has no one asked this yet WYB? She does have giant hoop earings, so we can establish that she's an easy bang.

 

[Blackmagic]

He's doing the same thing that most parents should do when their kids move home- take some of their money, so they don't spend it irresponsibly. Maybe he's using it on house expenses or maybe he's putting it away so that he can fund her engagement ring or their honeymoon. Giving her a free ride at this point sets a bad precedent for later on in the relationship. Should she pay half? Probably not. He should charge her about 50% of what she was paying at her last place with a roommate and he should also let her slide until she finds her next gig. You know what the chances are that she keeps looking for a next job if he doesn't charge her anything? ZERO.

 

[HonantheBarbarian]

That girl is ratchet as fuck.

WB

WNLW

 

[Dr. Howard]

He's doing the same thing that most parents should do when their kids move home- take some of their money, so they don't spend it irresponsibly. Maybe he's using it on house expenses or maybe he's putting it away so that he can fund her engagement ring or their honeymoon. Giving her a free ride at this point sets a bad precedent for later on in the relationship. Should she pay half? Probably not. He should charge her about 50% of what she was paying at her last place with a roommate and he should also let her slide until she finds her next gig. You know what the chances are that she keeps looking for a next job if he doesn't charge her anything? ZERO.

That is some genius right there. Using the rent for an engagement ring/wedding/whatever. If the relationship works, its less out of pocket for the marriage...if it doesn't you can use the money on a lawyer to get her our of your house as quickly as possible.

 

[Hotwheels]

Update:

Looks like Tom Leykis did a show on this and her boyfriend posted in the comments. They are no longer together...sweet move. So that means this girl is maybe still looking for a free apartment, calling hotweels?

and of course...how has no one asked this yet WYB? She does have giant hoop earings, so we can establish that she's an easy bang.

hah WB

WNGA*

*Would not give apartment.

 

[Hotwheels]

From the former boyfriend's comments on Leykis;

My house is not paid off, I have a mortage and while i don’t need her to help me to make the payment, my expectation was she would want to help in some way. Utimately, her offer was that she expected to do all the cooking and cleaning and buying of groceries. Don’t get me wrong, those things matter and are important. I told her, that my expectation was that those would be shared responsibities. As far as giving her a helping hand, she neglected to mention that I helped her with the downpayment so she could buy a used car so she could find a new job.

I'm more traditional and I would have zero problem with her handling the household in lieu of rent.

Now this "shared responsibilities" stuff grinds my gears as I grew up in a traditional household. My father has no idea how to wash clothes for example. Only cooks if it's on the grill. I hire my house cleaning.

Shared responsibilities is just another part of feminism as it blurs the line between male and female.

Edit-Obviously this doesn't apply to girls that lean to the feminist side. But you're not looking to shack up with one of them are you...

 

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

There seems to be a slew of weird guys of late concerned with "shared responsibilities" and "equality" in relationships. WTF is going on? The guy seems like a jerk, but the wrong kind.

 

[Blaster]

There seems to be a slew of weird guys of late concerned with "shared responsibilities" and "equality" in relationships. WTF is going on? The guy seems like a jerk, but the wrong kind.

Likely a sober assessment of reality. Does that girl look traditional to you? Do you think she is well-practiced preparing all her mother's recipes? Maybe she is but I wouldn't bet on it. She's on Yelp, after all.

And what is traditional anyway? Nearly all of my female relatives going back 2 or 3 generations worked and contributed household income unless they were actively raising children. At least two of them hired a cleaning service so they could focus on other projects.

Idleness breeds laziness, entitlement, and restlessness. Don't let women fool you with their feigned or learned helplessness.

 

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

Yes, but the way this guy argued his position implies that he would have been cool with having some harpy around if only she was willing to "contribute equally". Same with the guys mentioned in the recent thread about marriage - they don't want to marry because the women they meet are not "independent enough". Then they will end up marrying exactly the independent kind that is the most likely to fleece them. Their decisions, though adequate at the time, seem to be more like lucky blunders than reflecting an actual understanding of the world.

None of them realize that equal contribution is supposed to be the frosting on the cake, not the cake itself.